{"id":5559,"date":"2014-06-06T12:01:53","date_gmt":"2014-06-06T16:01:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5559"},"modified":"2014-06-09T15:18:51","modified_gmt":"2014-06-09T19:18:51","slug":"what-does-your-face-tell-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/06\/what-does-your-face-tell-others.html","title":{"rendered":"What Does Your Face Tell Others?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Adam<\/a>Today my guest is <\/strong>Adam J. Scheine<\/strong>r<\/a>, M.D., ian\u00a0international Oculoplastic surgeon. Dr. Scheiner is world-renowned in laser eyelid and facial plastic surgery for his groundbreaking treatment for Festoons. He wrote the medical text on the condition and treated two complex causes of Festoons for the Dr. Oz and The Doctors TV shows. Today he discusses how your face sends a message you may not want to send.<\/p>\n

Does Your Face Reveal Your True Feelings?<\/strong>
\nPhysician Shares 3 Ways It Can LieAbout Us<\/strong>
\nBy Adam J. Scheiner<\/strong>, M.D.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Social science experts agree — much of what we \u201csay\u201d is never actually spoken.<\/p>\n

Facial expressions and other body language account for more than half of our communication.
\nWhen we look at someone, especially when we\u2019re meeting for the first time, we quickly scan the eye and mouth areas of the other person\u2019s face to make some quick judgments: Are they friendly or a potential threat? Are they trustworthy?<\/p>\n

We form first impressions within 7 seconds of meeting.\u00a0 Those first impressions can become misleading due to the normal aging process and damage caused by stress, diet and environmental factors, particularly sun exposure.<\/p>\n

I call them the three D\u2019s of aging: Our skin begins to deteriorate; our faces deflate, making them narrower and wrinkled; and our eyelids and face descend, causing drooping and sagging. All of these can affect what our face communicates to those around us.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s bad enough to communicate something you don\u2019t really feel. It\u2019s worse when people react to that communication so often, such as saying, \u201cYou look so tired,\u201d that you actually begin to believe you are tired.Here are three common facial miscommunications:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cPeople say I look tired when I\u2019m not.\u201d<\/strong> As we age, our eyelids can begin to droop and look heavy. The lower eyelid region often develops fullness below the lower lashes due to changes inthe fat around the eye and changes in the facial fat of the surrounding cheek region. A lower eyelid height, heaviness of the upper or lower eyelid, or an eyebrow falling into the upper eyelid space can also occur. Whatever the cause, having baggy, puffy eyes can make a person look tired, sleepy, old or sick.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cPeople avoid me because they say I look stern, even angry. I\u2019m neither!\u201d<\/strong> Whether through genetics or aging, eyebrows may lack or lose the arc that opens up the eye area and the entire face. A fairly straight eyebrow can convey a closed, unapproachable personality.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cPeople think I\u2019m sick or have no energy.\u201d<\/strong> The brain expects to see a smooth curve from the temple to the cheek through the jawline to the chin. Any break in the curve is read as a lack of vibrancy. Normal facial aging causes loss of youthful fullness due to facial fat changes. This can cause a break in the curve that translates as a lack of vibrancy. In addition, poorly injected facial fillers can cause unnatural results.<\/p>\n

Cosmetic procedures shouldn\u2019t aim to turn you into something you\u2019re not.<\/p>\n

For rejuvenation, you simply want your face to communicate how you really feel inside. When you accomplish that, it\u2019s so natural, people will say, \u2018Wow, you look great!\u2019 But they won\u2019t be able to put their finger on why.
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