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\"\"<\/a>This is post 62 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action<\/span>. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

As the holiday season approaches, I thought eating was a good topic, since many of us will do a lot of it. ? We try not to. Resolve to be strong. But then the temptation and scents of yummies weaken us. So we indulge. And indulge. And then often lament and come down on ourselves hard after. It\u2019s better to put eating into perspective so you can enjoy it more. Food is to be enjoyed.<\/p>\n

You can ruin a good pig-out with regret and self-scolding.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eating is normal. We all need to do it. Of course eating to excess, like I\u2019ll probably do on Thursday, isn\u2019t something to do regularly, but splurges are fun on holidays! Guilt isn\u2019t. Yet so I see or hear from so many people who afflict self-wounds by denying themselves the pleasure of good eating or by eat the fattening goodies and then berating themselves so much that all pleasure is squashed.<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction hears you put yourself down for indulging in yummy excess or lamenting about how fat you are so you must be good. <\/span><\/p>\n

All this attracts unhappiness for sure. And, it says you expect to get fat from one meal or that a splurge will ruin your body, both of which aren\u2019t true unless you make it so. The Law of Attraction takes those thoughts and supports them coming true. When I had those kind of fat thoughts, I did gain weight more easily and then things prevented me from taking the weight off.<\/p>\n

Hello! If you EXPECT to gain weight and EXPECT to feel fat, you probably will!<\/span><\/p>\n

As I relaxed about my body and eating, a funny thing happened. I gained less during pig-outs and it came off easier. When I was a DoorMat, I hated my body and saw myself as fat. I swear, if I ate a piece of pie I could see it in my stomach area right after so all the joy of a special dinner would go right out the window. The more I\u2019d lament that I was a big fat pig, the more weight I gained. Now I know I was affirming it.<\/p>\n

Today I enjoy my food thoroughly and tell the Universe I\u2019m not worried about gaining weight, at least not permanently. And I don\u2019t!<\/span><\/p>\n

If you approach a holiday meal with thoughts of \u201cI\u2019m so fat,\u201d \u201cWhat a pig I am,\u201d \u201cI hate myself for eating well at the dinner,\u201d \u201cI\u2019m bad for wanting another piece of cake,\u201d you send a message of self-loathing. You also say you EXPECT to gain weight, instead of believing, like I do, that a splurge can come off fast with some exercise and healthier eating after. And it does for me!<\/p>\n

When you love yourself and accept your body with love, weight comes off.<\/span> I put it out that I EXPECT my body to be the same a few days after holiday eating, and it is.<\/p>\n

Self-loathing attracts more to loath. It puts out fat expectations that come to pass. Self-love somehow helps the body to relax and attract easier weight loss. Body loathing attracts weight gain. Of course I try to eat in moderation after pigging out and I also do more exercise if I can. But I no longer worry about it.<\/p>\n

Worrying tells the Universe you don\u2019t trust that your body will survive holiday eating. <\/span><\/p>\n

Self-loathing attracts more self-loathing. Self-love attracts more self-love and sets up a vibration for you to survive holiday eating and still feel good about yourself. Of course you don\u2019t want to totally lose control. That\u2019s just common sense. I leave on Wednesday to spend 4 days at my sister\u2019s house in the Berkshire Mountains of Connecticut. My sister loves to entertain and is a fabulous cook. So I know I\u2019ll have to exert some constraint. But I also know I\u2019ll be pigging out a lot too! I\u2019m bringing my sneakers and will do some power-walking and running to burn off some calories. And if necessary, I\u2019ll be more vigilant about my eating for a while when I return.<\/p>\n

Pigging out for days does bring weight gain, no matter how vigilant you are. I don\u2019t expect the Universe to completely pardon me if I over-indulge for 4 days.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I\u2019ll do what I can to prepare for it in advance. While I will eat the fattening foods I love, I\u2019ll do what I can to stay in some loose control of my eating. This is more because I love myself enough to want to remain healthy. Eating an overabundance of fat and sugar isn\u2019t good for me and I\u2019ll respect that. Plus, after days of that I don’t feel well and I like to feel well! Turkey day will be forgiving and I\u2019ll eat what I want. Then I\u2019ll set some boundaries, while still enjoying the good food.<\/p>\n

My message to the Universe: I deserve to enjoy a pig-out without hurting my body but I also love myself enough to take care of me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everything in moderation after the big dinner shows that intention. But it\u2019s done out of self-love, not self-loathing or hating my body. I just began adding chia seeds to my diet. They\u2019re known as the super food of the Amazon for their dense nutritional value. They also make me feel fuller so I don’t want to eat as much. I\u2019ll have them with me to try to keep my pig-outs in control. With it all, I EXPECT to keep my weight stable, and attract things to help me balance the eating. I\u2019m lucky that I burn more calories in the thinner mountain air.<\/p>\n

Relax and enjoy a good meal when the opportunity arises. Don\u2019t taint it with guilt or anger about it. That’s an act of self-love, which attract good things.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then take better care to eat more healthy and exercise to burn some of it off. You only live once. Show the Universe you love yourself enough to splurge and enjoy and enough to then take control. I already know that by the end of next week, my scale will be where it was this morning. When you relax and EXPECT to not have long-term weight gain, it\u2019s easier to enjoy the holidays, and to keep your weight in check.<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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