{"id":5374,"date":"2014-04-03T12:01:05","date_gmt":"2014-04-03T16:01:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5374"},"modified":"2014-04-04T11:32:38","modified_gmt":"2014-04-04T15:32:38","slug":"be-the-boss-of-your-own-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/04\/be-the-boss-of-your-own-life.html","title":{"rendered":"Be the Boss of Your Own Life"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2014\/03\/Linda-Chervil.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-5375\" alt=\"Linda Chervil\" src=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2014\/03\/Linda-Chervil-300x225.jpg\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" \/><\/a>Today my guest is, <a href=\"http:\/\/lyndachervil.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Lynda Chervil<\/strong><\/a> author of \u201cFool\u2019s Return,\u201d <b>\u00a0<\/b>a new novel that incorporates valuable life lessons in a page-turning tale that touches on technology, the green movement, and other aspects of contemporary society.<b> <\/b>She graduated from New York University with a master\u2019s degree in Integrated Marketing Communications and has extensive experience in consumer and commercial banking and has held positions in new business development, sales management and executive leadership. Chervil seeks to push the limits of established understanding by exploring alternative forms of spiritual healing, and, through creative writing, to expand the narrative of cutting-edge energy technology to promote sustainability. Today she will share her tips \u00a0for being your own CEO.<a href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/files\/2014\/03\/Linda-Chervil-Cover.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-5376\" alt=\"Linda Chervil Cover\" src=\"https:\/\/wp-media.beliefnet.com\/sites\/91\/2014\/03\/Linda-Chervil-Cover-279x300.png\" width=\"279\" height=\"300\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center\"><b>How to Be the Boss of Your Own Life<br \/>\n<\/b><b>By\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/lyndachervil.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Lynda Chervil<\/strong><\/a><\/b><\/p>\n<p>Entrepreneurship is alive and well in the United States with hundreds of thousands of new businesses opening each year.<\/p>\n<p>More than 22 million of our small businesses are one-man (or woman) shops, and the number of those ringing up more than $1 million in sales is growing \u2013 it was nearly 27,000 in 2011, the most recent U.S. Census statistics available.<\/p>\n<p>Americans are very savvy business people, and for more and more of us, the rewards of running our own business trounce the risks associated with stepping out on our own. Imagine what would happen if we applied our CEO mindset and skills to our own lives? Sometimes, it takes a boss to tell you to do something in order for it to get done. Now\u2019s the time to become that boss.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>H<strong>ere are some tips for doing that:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u2022 <b>Embrace change, renewal and rebirth.<\/b> There is no shortage of opportunity to notice change in life. Don\u2019t be afraid to use milestones to provide yourself with an \u201cemployer\u2019s review\u201d on how you\u2019re doing in your own life. What are you doing well, what needs work and how are you going to improve? Create a detailed plan on how you expect to accomplish your goals. Give yourself a timeline, such as losing 20 pounds by summer or increasing your net worth by next year.<\/li>\n<li>\u2022 <b>You\u2019re your own best entrepreneur. <\/b>Part of being a good boss means trying out enterprising ideas; it\u2019s the mediocre bosses who are content with the status quo. You don\u2019t have to start with something wild. Instead, follow through on ideas that are good for you, such as buying healthy food that you haven\u2019t yet tried. Look up recipes for how to prepare a healthy item like quinoa \u2013 make a project out of it. Have fun with the new you. Just because you have a new job with plenty of responsibility \u2013 being your own boss \u2013 doesn\u2019t mean you can\u2019t have fun.<\/li>\n<li>\u2022 <b>Manage what you can control; accept what you cannot; and look outside the box.<\/b> This is not as easy as it may sound because we often think we can control things that, in fact, we cannot, including how people respond to us or how quickly our bodies respond to diet and exercise. Progress does not happen all at once. While it makes sense to focus on what we can control, you may also consider alternative methods of living. That may include riding a bike to work rather than driving, or exploring alternative forms of spiritual healing.<\/li>\n<li>\u2022 <b>Don\u2019t be a victim!<\/b> To a greater or lesser extent, we\u2019re all taught to be obedient conform to the standards set by parents, teachers and bosses. Unfortunately, for many, this passive role can shape one\u2019s identity and influence other relationships. It all starts with one\u2019s own relationship to one\u2019s self. As most parents and teachers will say, the best students are those who need the least help and are willing to be proactive in their own improvement. Understand that it\u2019s not others who determine what you can do; it\u2019s you!<br \/>\n*************Join\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0Take the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-pledge\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>&#8212;<strong>\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for\u00a0<strong><strong>the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book,\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/the-book\" target=\"_blank\">How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0for free at\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\/\">http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2014 31 Days of Self-Love Posts\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5224\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/TheSelfLoveMovement\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>Facebook<\/strong><\/a>. Watch the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=aYnktf84aPA\" target=\"_blank\"><strong>video<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0made with Hoobastank&#8217;s song&#8211;The reason&#8211;that illustrates the power of self-love.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today my guest is, Lynda Chervil author of \u201cFool\u2019s Return,\u201d \u00a0a new novel that incorporates valuable life lessons in a page-turning tale that touches on technology, the green movement, and other aspects of contemporary society. She graduated from New York University with a master\u2019s degree in Integrated Marketing Communications and has extensive experience in consumer&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":83,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1,2],"tags":[911,910],"class_list":["post-5374","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-nice-people-can-finish-first","category-self-empowerment-confidence","tag-be-in-charge-of-your-life","tag-lynda-chervil"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Be the Boss of Your Own Life - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, nofollow\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Be the Boss of Your Own Life - Lessons from a Recovering Doormat\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Today my guest is, Lynda Chervil author of \u201cFool\u2019s Return,\u201d \u00a0a new novel that incorporates valuable life lessons in a page-turning tale that touches on technology, the green movement, and other aspects of contemporary society. 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