{"id":5371,"date":"2014-03-18T12:01:56","date_gmt":"2014-03-18T16:01:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5371"},"modified":"2014-03-12T12:25:03","modified_gmt":"2014-03-12T16:25:03","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-selfishness-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/03\/law-of-attraction-in-action-selfishness-2.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Selfishness"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"LOAlogoBLOG\"<\/a>This is post 276 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t advocate bring selfish in the true sense of the word, but to get the Law of Attraction to work well for you, it\u2019s important to focus on you. I don\u2019t see that as being selfish but many would. And if you\u2019re a people pleaser focusing on giving yourself joy, which fuels the vibration for manifesting good stuff, may feel selfish. If you want to be happy and reach your goals, let go of labeling giving yourself joy as selfish. Self-love is often labeled as selfish by people who want more from you\u2014which is real selfish!<\/p>\n

Watching out for yourself and your needs is your birthright. If you focus on pleasing others it tells the Universe that you don\u2019t feel deserving of the best. You need to be selfish enough to take good care. And when you are selfish enough to take good care of yourself and your needs,\u00a0 you have a lot more to give to those you care about. And you tell the Universe to bring it on and the Law of Attraction will bring you more good stuff!<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t consider taking care of you selfishness. Some would but you have to decided for yourself what works for you. Unless you are at least a little selfish you won\u2019t get that much of what you want and you can come up empty in manifesting. Therefore you won’t have anything to give to anyone. When you are a little selfish you stop being a people pleaser and\u00a0 have a lot more to give others\u2014from a\u00a0 place of joy, not to buy acceptance. That\u2019s the best kind of nice person!\u00a0When you focus on your own needs, it says you believe that you are worthy of manifesting your desires. Pleasing yourself helps you enjoy your life more fully and builds\u00a0 self-love.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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