{"id":5366,"date":"2014-03-17T12:01:12","date_gmt":"2014-03-17T16:01:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5366"},"modified":"2014-03-03T17:56:16","modified_gmt":"2014-03-03T22:56:16","slug":"my-little-teapot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/03\/my-little-teapot.html","title":{"rendered":"My Little Teapot"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"teapot\"<\/a>Years ago I did a driving trip in Canada solo and stayed mainly in Bed & Breakfasts. A special part of my day was coming home after hiking and other outdoor activities, relaxing in the parlor and being offered a pot of tea by the host. I loved pouring myself a cup of piping hot tea from a pretty teapot, as little or as much as I wanted each time. It felt so luxurious to me.<\/p>\n

When I returned home I smiled whenever I thought about my teatime. Then it hit me. I could have it at home! So, as an act of self-love I made it my mission to find the perfect teapot. It wasn\u2019t easy. A small teapot isn\u2019t a high demand item so not every store carried them. I found some in a store but they didn\u2019t excite me. the ones at the B &Bs had an old-fashioned look. That was what I wanted. And I preferred it to have blue in it.<\/p>\n

I refused to settle for just any teapot. I was determined to get one that made me feel good. When I\u2019d see one that was just OK, I\u2019d remind myself that I deserved a teapot that felt right to me. I kept affirming that I loved me enough to not settle and that I\u2019d find the \u201cone.\u201d Sometimes it felt like I never would but I continued to not settle.<\/p>\n

One day a friend took me to a thrift shop to check out some jewelry. As I walked up the last aisle I glanced up at a shelf. There it was\u2014the teapot I\u2019d been waiting for! I grabbed it and pratically ran to pay for it. When I got home I washed it out and put up the kettle. I got into something cozy and poured\u00a0 a cup of tea. It brought me back to my lovely vacation in Canada. As I sipped my tea, self-love welled up inside me. I was so happy that I hadn\u2019t settled. I deserved this teapot that still puts a smile on my face each time I use it. I reminds me that I\u2019m worthy of getting good stuff.<\/p>\n

Settling can seem like the easy way to get something you desire. But it’s not better than nothing! Self-love can motivate you not to settle for a romantic partner, a job, a living space or a teapot.\u00a0 Or anything else! Go for what you really want. Have the patience to wait until the right one comes along. My teapot represents my determination not to settle because I love me and know I desire the right one. Find your own special desire and do what you can to get the one you really want, no settling.
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2014 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>. Watch the video<\/strong><\/a> made with Hoobastank’s song–The reason–that illustrates the power of self-love.<\/p>\n

way you want it. That\u2019s so fulfilling and honors your needs. That\u2019s a great way to say, \u201cI love me!\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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