{"id":5311,"date":"2014-02-24T12:01:05","date_gmt":"2014-02-24T17:01:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5311"},"modified":"2014-02-18T22:33:10","modified_gmt":"2014-02-19T03:33:10","slug":"learn-to-trust-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/02\/learn-to-trust-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Learn to Trust Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Photo<\/a>Trust is an important quality that we look for in others. It can be hard to trust if someone you trusted has betrayed you, or lied, or not done what they promised. But the one person you can count on is YOU! The more you build self-love, the more you\u2019ll feel good about taking care of you. Of course you\u2019ll make mistakes but that\u2019s OK, if you tried your best. When you love yourself, you can trust that you\u2019ll do what\u2019s in your best interest.<\/p>\n

When people ask me what I consider the most important necessity for succeeding, I always say faith. Spiritual faith is essential to getting over hurdles but it\u2019s also important to have faith in yourself\u2014in your abilities, knowledge, strength, etc. That means trusting yourself!<\/p>\n

Trust can get built as you use it. Start by being prepared for what you need to do so you can trust that you\u2019ve done your best to get it done. Avoid people who\u2019ve let you down since they can make you scared of trusting anyone, even you. It\u2019s harder to trust yourself when you keep trusting the wrong people!<\/p>\n

Pump yourself up instead of having negative self-talk. Remind yourself how terrific and smart you are. That helps build confidence in you. It\u2019s also important to follow through on your intentions. If you promise yourself you\u2019ll be on time for work, make sure you are. Keep your word to you! If you drop ball, acknowledge that you\u2019re sorry and will try harder next time. Then forgive yourself and let it go.<\/p>\n

Learn to listen to your instincts. Usually that inner voice or feeling in your gut is spiritually guided. The more you trust those feelings, the more you\u2019ll see it\u2019s good to trust yourself. Often we fight our gut if it tells us to do something unpleasant or hat we don\u2019t want to do\u2014like cut off a friend or romantic partner who doesn\u2019t treat us right but who seems to meet some need. Let self-love guide you! When you love yourself you want to avoid unhealthy situations and people.<\/p>\n

The more you trust your spiritual guidance, the more you\u2019ll be able to trust you. Knowing you have support from a higher power makes it easier. Building a loving relationship with yourself helps too. Learning to trust yourself\u2014to say the right thin, to get a job done, to task care of a problem\u2014gives you a burst of fuel for your self-empowerment. It\u2019s worth the effort!
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2014 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>. Watch the video<\/strong><\/a> made with Hoobastank’s song–The reason–that illustrates the power of self-love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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