{"id":5289,"date":"2014-02-11T12:01:41","date_gmt":"2014-02-11T17:01:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5289"},"modified":"2014-02-10T17:58:52","modified_gmt":"2014-02-10T22:58:52","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-beliefs-about-meeting-a-romantic-partner","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/02\/law-of-attraction-in-action-beliefs-about-meeting-a-romantic-partner.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Beliefs about Meeting a Romantic Partner"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"LOAlogoBLOG\"<\/a>This is post 271 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Valentine\u2019s Day is coming. Seeing all the hearts and flowers in stores can awaken a need for a romantic partner if you don\u2019t have one. It used to do that to me when I didn\u2019t love myself. It\u2019s normal to want love in your life, especially at this time of year. Thoughts about this can make you sad. Why don\u2019t I have someone? What are you telling the Law of Attraction in Action?<\/p>\n

Your beliefs about meeting a romantic partner can be especially strong against meeting someone good. Do you ever think a version of:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0The odds are against me here. There are too many women looking to meet someone and not enough men.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Every woman is just looking for a man to support her.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Men aren\u2019t attracted to women who aren\u2019t slim.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I don\u2019t make enough money to attract women.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Men don\u2019t like my body.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019m too busy to have someone in my life<\/p>\n

I had these kinds of thoughts too and not meeting someone reinforced my beliefs, until a friend woke me up. We were having coffee when I said with feeling\u2014\u201cThere are no good men in NY!\u201d \u201cI\u2019m not slim enough to attract a man here.\u201d She jumped on my comment and reminded me that I was sabotaging myself by telling the Law of Attraction I didn\u2019t\u00a0 expect to meet someone. She was so right and I amended my belief to \u2014\u201cThere are aren\u2019t many good available men in NY but there\u2019s one for me! And he\u2019ll appreciate my body.\u201d I said that a lot in the next weeks and shortly after that I had a boyfriend.<\/p>\n

If you make negative stereotypes your beliefs, don\u2019t be surprised if they play out in your life. Remember, your beliefs attract your reality. When I believed there were no good men in NY I didn\u2019t meet any. When I changed my belief, I met someone.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have someone special on Valentine\u2019s Day, remember that YOU are special! And you always have you. As you build your self-love you\u2019re more likely to attract love into your life. I\u2019ve been very busy and haven\u2019t felt ready to meet someone but I\u00a0truly know there\u2019s special guy coming into my life. I believe that with all my heart and am excited to meet him.<\/p>\n

Make sure that your expectations about meeting a healthy romantic partner are positive to give yourself the best chance of finding your next valentine.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2014 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>. Watch the video<\/strong><\/a> made with Hoobastank’s song–The reason–that illustrates the power of self-love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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