{"id":5231,"date":"2014-01-31T12:01:42","date_gmt":"2014-01-31T17:01:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5231"},"modified":"2014-01-29T21:13:45","modified_gmt":"2014-01-30T02:13:45","slug":"do-unto-yourself-as-you-do-for-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/01\/do-unto-yourself-as-you-do-for-others.html","title":{"rendered":"Do Unto Yourself as You Do for Others"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Self-Love<\/a><\/p>\n

Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

Most of us know the Golden Rule about how to treat others\u2014Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. It\u2019s a reminder of not to do anything to someone else that you wouldn\u2019t want them to do to you. But, the reverse is true too. When you don\u2019t love yourself, you treat others better than you treat you. People pleasing and a lack of self-love tend to go hand-in-hand.<\/p>\n

As Self Love Month comes to a close, make this your permanent mantra:<\/p>\n

\u201cI will do unto myself as good if not better than I do unto others.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Being a people pleaser isn\u2019t self-loving.\u00a0 That\u2019s when you make what others want more important than your own desires. If you need to keep reminding yourself to be kind to you, keep reminding yourself!\u00a0 Every act of kindness that you give yourself is another brick in the foundation of your self-love. In the video below I share how it works. I hope that you\u2019ve gotten some good out of Self Love Month to jumpstart your desire to love yourself<\/p>\n