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\"Self-Love<\/a><\/p>\n

Today is Day 28 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em>
\n\"LOAlogoBLOG\"<\/a>This is post 269 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m often asked to write article for websites or to speak for free. Usually I turn them down. Why? Because I value my talent and won\u2019t give it away. That tells the Universe I\u2019m serious about getting paid for my writing and speaking. And I do! When you give your talents and skills that earn your livelihood away for free, you tell the Universe you don\u2019t value them. And you\u2019ll attract more people who don\u2019t value them either and earn less money from them.<\/p>\n

A musician, who I\u2019ll call Kristen, came to me because she was doing a lot of shows but not getting paid for them. She was told that she had to pay her dues. But she had a big following that came to her shows, so the clubs were making money when she played. She didn\u2019t understand why she only attracted performance opportunities that didn\u2019t pay. I knew why! The Law of Attraction brought her more of what she settled for.<\/p>\n

When she stopped accepting unpaid shows, which told the Universe, she knew her talent was worth being paid for, she began to get offered money. If you have a talent or skill related to your income, you should be paid for it, no matter who tries to guilt you out. Often, people who can\u2019t do what you do feel entitled to get your service free. But they’re not! If you\u2019re an auto mechanic it\u2019s not your obligation to fix your friends\u2019 car for free. If you\u2019re a web designer, you don\u2019t owe anyone a free website.<\/p>\n

Sometimes you can barter for something they can do for you, but only if it feels equitable. Love yourself enough to value your profession as a profession, which people pay for. Of course it\u2019s OK to help out a close family member or your best friend, IF<\/strong> it feels good to you. But make sure you tell The Law of Attraction you expect to be paid. I just turned down a writing opportunity because the person wouldn\u2019t pay me what I thought I should get for the amount of work. And I could use the money. But when I got low-balled I didn\u2019t hesitate to say \u201cNO!\u201d<\/p>\n

When I hung up with the person I said, \u201cClose one door and another one opens!\u201d\u00a0 I\u2019m excited to see what will come along now. I expect another, better, opportunity. When you value your abilities enough to expect to get paid for them, it\u2019s more likely you will get the money you deserve for your services.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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