{"id":522,"date":"2011-02-16T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2011-02-16T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/02\/i-love-me-tip-send-yourself-a-love-message.html"},"modified":"2011-02-16T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2011-02-16T12:01:00","slug":"i-love-me-tip-send-yourself-a-love-message","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2011\/02\/i-love-me-tip-send-yourself-a-love-message.html","title":{"rendered":"“I Love Me” Tip: Send Yourself a Love Message"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Thumbnail<\/a><\/span>Love letters are nice to get. They can also be in short supply. Words of love feel good, so why wait for someone to give them to you when you can give them to yourself?<\/b> I was thinking about that one day when remembering how starved for love I was when I was a DoorMat. When I had a boyfriend, I practically begged for a love letter or some show of feelings. I needed it so badly yet rarely got more than a crumb.<\/p>\n

Then I fell in love with me and realized I could send myself love messages.<\/p>\n

With all the electronics, it’s easy to do. Send yourself words of love and encouragement. Leave a message on your home answering machine.
<\/b>
\u2022    Darn you’re good!
\u2022    You can do anything you choose!
\u2022    I love you!
\u2022    Keep up the good work!
\u2022    I will take care of you!<\/p>\n

Send similar messages in an email.<\/b> Have a fun, loving line in the subject. When I began to do this I felt silly at first but getting the messages made me smile. And smile! Leave a loving post-it-note on your mirror before leaving for work. “I’m so happy that I love me!” “YOU’RE the BEST” Write compliments praising your good qualities. <\/p>\n

When I began to write this post, I sent myself an email with the subject header, “I love you!” Every time I see it I smile. I wrote it yet I love to see it. Be loving to you in writing<\/b>. It’s fun and might just bring a smile to your face and warm your heart!<\/p>\n

Take the self-love challenge<\/b><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/b> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/b> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/b>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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