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Self-Love Month is over but I’ll continue posting abot sel-love.you should still be working on nourishing yours. <\/em>Carrying anger around with you hurts you, which isn\u2019t loving. The antidote is forgiveness. Today my guest is Self-Love Ambassador <\/strong>Alice McCall<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0 In her practice she has found Love to be a powerful healing force. It was intentionally part of her self-healing routine with breast cancer, which you can learn more about at\u00a0Wellness Wisdom<\/a>. http:\/\/www.wellnesswisdomhealing.com\u00a0She uses this powerful energy as a core component of her successful transformative work with others. Check her out her services and events (some teleseminars are free!) at\u00a0Healing Path with Alice McCall. http:\/\/healingpath.info\/ She does healing work with people!<\/p>\n

Show Yourself Love Through Forgiveness<\/strong>
\nby Alice McCall<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Alice<\/a>The most important relationship you have is with yourself.\u00a0 Yet as a society, we seldom extend love to ourselves.\u00a0 Rather, we exclusively focus our efforts on our relationships with others.<\/p>\n

One of the best ways to show love to your self is by forgiving others.\u00a0 You might believe that forgiving is just being kind to the other person(s), as they are the one(s) who hurt, ignored, or judged you.\u00a0 However,\u00a0this is only partially true.\u00a0 Forgiveness is really an act of self-love, more so than being an expression of love for another person!<\/p>\n

When you hold on to negative, fear based thoughts and emotions, the memory of them can become buried in your cells as dense, dark, heavy energy.\u00a0 This weighs you down, and overtime can cause imbalance and disharmony, which can ultimately lead to disease.\u00a0 When you feel hurt by someone, you experience the negative emotions like anger or sadness.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t forgive, all of that negativity becomes buried in your body, not theirs.\u00a0 It is actually doing more harm to you than it does to the other person.<\/p>\n

If you are like most people, you often intentionally or unintentionally hold a grudge towards others.\u00a0 Sometimes a grudge can be held for years.\u00a0 Meanwhile, the person you are determined not to forgive is feeling no pain.\u00a0 By clinging to your inability to forgive or choosing to retain the past, your body becomes denser and heavier each year.<\/p>\n

Stop thinking about \u2018them\u2019 and start thinking about you!\u00a0 It is paramount for your health that YOU release this dynamic.\u00a0 Completely let go of the issue or person through forgiveness, along with releasing any associated reactions from your perception of the hurt, anger, fear, or betrayal.\u00a0 Doing this is truly an act of love for you and your body!<\/p>\n

There are other negative repercussions of not forgiving:<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The build-up of negativity from resentment, limits something new from entering.\u00a0 We\u2019ve all heard sayings like \u2018close one door to open another\u2019 or \u2018get rid of the old, to make way for the new.\u2019\u00a0 Ever wonder why your intentions aren\u2019t manifesting?\u00a0 Maybe there isn\u2019t any space or opening for the new to reside?\u00a0 Perhaps you are limiting the foundation of love-based emotions necessary for positive manifestation, by allowing negative energy to accumulate inside of you.<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 An increasing loss of energy, harmony, or health.\u00a0 This isn\u2019t a conscious choice, but the negativity takes its toll on all parts of you.<\/p>\n

\u00b7\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 An inhibiting effect on your intuition, wisdom, knowing, and your connection with God.<\/p>\n

Being unforgiving (consciously, subconsciously, or unconsciously) is just not healthy for you emotionally, physically, mentally, or spiritually.\u00a0 It is important to conduct an inventory of all who you have not forgiven in your life.\u00a0 Review all those who may have hurt you from childhood to present time.\u00a0 Write down each of their names and how they hurt you.\u00a0 Then add how you felt about it, for example: \u201cI felt sad, angry, or disappointed.\u201d<\/p>\n

After you have listed them all, start the process of reviewing them one by one.\u00a0 Forgive each of them in your heart and soul.\u00a0 Release them to God with a big inhale and exhale.\u00a0 Take the time to focus on your associated emotions.\u00a0 Then release them as well.\u00a0 This process does not have to be done all at once,\u00a0try doing a few names each day.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, don\u2019t forget yourself.\u00a0 It is often harder to forgive yourself, but I encourage you to go through the same process on your own behalf.\u00a0 Review the times you may have hurt yourself or someone else, or the times when you did not feel good about your actions or decisions.\u00a0 Then fully forgive yourself.<\/p>\n

This entire exercise is very healing, and is truly an act of self-love.\u00a0 The best part is that you will no longer be operating with that old worn out \u2018unforgiving\u2019 energy.\u00a0 Forgiveness is always transformational to the person engaging in it, you will really feel the difference!<\/p>\n

Love yourself.\u00a0 Engage in forgiveness and feel its loving power. All parts of you will thank you!
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2014 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.Watch the video<\/strong><\/a> made with Hoobastank’s son–The reason–that illustrates the power of self-love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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