{"id":5200,"date":"2014-01-24T12:01:31","date_gmt":"2014-01-24T17:01:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5200"},"modified":"2014-01-18T22:09:47","modified_gmt":"2014-01-19T03:09:47","slug":"start-an-inner-revolution","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/01\/start-an-inner-revolution.html","title":{"rendered":"Start an Inner Revolution"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Self-Love<\/a><\/p>\n

Today is Day 24 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

I say it often: In order to be happy, you have to work on your inner self first. Inner happiness radiates out and makes you feel authentically happy. Material possessions create fleeting moments of joy but don\u2019t nourish your inner self, which is where the long-lasting contentment comes from. In most cases, the biggest deterrent to finding inner peace is YOU.<\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat, I was clogged with old messages and insecurities. I did want to love myself and feel happy\u2014deep down. But I got in my own way. My old beliefs\u2014especially that I was fat and ugly, made me feel not good enough to get what I thought I needed to be happy. So while I tried to soothe myself with food and buying things, my inner heart was still felt wounded. If you\u2019re not getting the happiness and contentment you\u2019d like, start an inner revolution! Find your inner clogs and begin to clean them out. Begin to identify old beliefs and habits of how you treat yourself.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you hold yourself to perfection standards?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you use harsh words when you make a mistake?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you judge yourself when you look in the mirror?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you expect negative results when you attempt or want something?<\/p>\n

Identify the habits that make you feel lousy about yourself or keep you from loving YOU or make you unhappy, Then one by one, affirm:<\/p>\n

\u201cI see that ________ is holding me back and I release the need to hold onto this old belief or bad habit of how I treat myself.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n

Do this one thing at a time. Choose the easiest to release first and work on it till you feel it leaving. Each time you stop yourself from going to an old message or response to a situation is an act of self-love. Even if you can\u2019t do it all the time\u2014yet\u2014keep trying to clean yourself from the inside out.<\/p>\n

The best detergent for inside you is self-love!<\/p>\n

Find your inner truth and stay in touch with it, no matter who disagrees. If you\u2019ve always been a people pleaser, those you gave a lot to in the past may try to get you to go back to your overly giving ways. Don\u2019t! Ask yourself, \u201cWhat do I want?\u201d \u201cWhat do I really think about a situation?\u201d\u00a0 If you know in your heart that you\u2019re right, that\u2019s your truth. It may not be someone else\u2019s but it\u2019s yours.<\/p>\n

The best way to own who you are is to start an inner revolution of thoughts and actions that shake up your old ways of thinking and doing things. That often does mean rubbing some people in ways they won\u2019t like. But, YOU will be happier as you live as the person you\u2019d like to be, which is the most important factor.<\/p>\n

Evolving into a self-empowered person means letting go of old ways so yo can embrace new ones that are healthy and ultimately bring you more of what you want. As your inner revolution takes hold, you\u2019ll grow as a person. Any revolution is uncomfortable at first. But as you start to see victories in situations that previously made you unhappy, you\u2019ll be motivated to go for more.
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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