{"id":5172,"date":"2014-01-19T12:01:04","date_gmt":"2014-01-19T17:01:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5172"},"modified":"2014-01-15T17:08:24","modified_gmt":"2014-01-15T22:08:24","slug":"what-do-you-say-when-you-look-at-yourself-in-the-mirror","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/01\/what-do-you-say-when-you-look-at-yourself-in-the-mirror.html","title":{"rendered":"What Do You Say When You Look at Yourself in the Mirror?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Self-Love<\/a><\/p>\n

Today is Day 11 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Cathy<\/a>When I met cancer survivor an Self-Love Ambassador Cathy Hamilton<\/strong><\/a>, I was struck by her positive attitude about getting through a cancer diagnosis. Cathy is a\u00a0 happiness coach,\u00a0 7 Levels of Wealth Manifestation Coach and Founder of Happy Tappy Girl<\/strong><\/a>.\u00a0 She bridges the gap between health, wealth and happiness. She shared\u00a0 share some of her story and what she teaches her clients about staying happy when you have cancer in her inspiring article, Strengthening Your Spirit with Happiness After a Cancer Diagnosis<\/strong><\/a>. Today she shares her thoughts related to self-love.<\/p>\n

. If you know anyone who has cancer, please share this article! Cathy is a true inspiration.<\/strong><\/p>\n

What Do You Say When You Look at Yourself in the Mirror?<\/strong>
\nby Cathy Hamilton<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Hello Fellow Life Enthusiasts!<\/p>\n

When I was going thru chemo I became really creative at finding ways to make myself feel good.\u00a0 Anyone who has gone thru chemo knows there are times when \u201cfeeling good\u201d is a bit challenging to say the least.I show women that have an experience with cancer and are struggling with the affect it has on their relationships, their self-image and overall health and happiness how to connect with their inner super hero and live their life with power, confidence, freedom and excitement.<\/p>\n

And<\/p>\n

I show people who want more wealth in their life how to recognize and release what is keeping them stuck so that they experience the freedom to create an abundant, healthy, authentic and joy based life.<\/p>\n

What I especially love about the work I do is that regardless of whether you are working through your health issues or wealth issues it automatically has a positive impact on the other.
\nA technique that I use with all of my clients and that I use myself is mirror work.\u00a0 I learned about mirror work from Louise Hay decades ago but didn\u2019t really put it into practice until I was being treated for breast cancer.<\/p>\n

Cancer as well as all of the treatments that can go along with it can play some tricks on your mind.\u00a0 So it became increasingly important that I was pumping myself up with as much love as I possibly could and it had such positive impact on me that I still use it every single day.\u00a0 It is amazing how much better you feel when you speak lovingly to yourself.\u00a0 It is also amazing how you don\u2019t realize the negative things you are saying to yourself \u2013 especially when you are looking in the mirror \u2013 until you put your focus on it.<\/p>\n

So here is what I started doing.\u00a0 Anytime I was in front of a mirror I would say something nice to myself \u2013 I can remember looking at myself with my bald head and missing eyebrows and eyelashes and say \u2013 \u201clook at how cute you are, you are absolutely beautiful, you are so brave, I adore you, I love you\u201d and any other positive thing I could think of.\u00a0 Then I would ask myself \u201cHow can I love you more today than I did yesterday?\u201d or \u201cHow can I make you happy today?\u201d.
\nI started having a lot of fun with it and have since gotten very playful about it.\u00a0\u00a0 I wink at myself, smile at myself and say things like \u201ccan you be any more awesome?\u201d.<\/p>\n

So many times we wait for other people to say the things that we want and need to hear in order to make us feel good about ourselves and reassure us that everything is going to be OK.\u00a0 We forget that we can say these things to ourselves.\u00a0 We are our biggest cheerleaders and our true champions for happiness.<\/p>\n

If you are not used to doing this type of work it may feel a little awkward at first.\u00a0 That\u2019s OK, just start where you are and take little baby steps with it.\u00a0 Maybe start by just looking deeply into your eyes and then work your way up to saying \u201chi\u201d.\u00a0 If you are having a hard time saying anything positive \u2013 you can say things like \u201cI am willing to love you more today than I did yesterday\u201d or \u201cI am open to the possibility of thinking that you are amazing\u201d.\u00a0 If you continue to struggle with it go ahead and add as many \u201cwillings\u201d or \u201copen to the possibilities\u201d that you need to in order to be able to say it.\u00a0 It would sound like \u201cI am willing to be willing to\u2026\u2026\u201d or \u201cI am open to the possibility of being open to the possibility of\u2026\u2026\u201d.
\nLittle by little it will get easier and easier.<\/p>\n

Let us know some of loving things you come up with to say to yourself.\u00a0 Get creative, have fun and most of all love yourself!!!<\/p>\n

*************<\/p>\n

Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.<\/strong>\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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