{"id":5149,"date":"2014-01-13T12:01:11","date_gmt":"2014-01-13T17:01:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5149"},"modified":"2014-01-07T21:38:06","modified_gmt":"2014-01-08T02:38:06","slug":"love-your-tummy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/01\/love-your-tummy.html","title":{"rendered":"Love Your Tummy"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Self-Love<\/a><\/p>\n

Today is Day 13 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

I weigh a bit less now than I have in over 20 years. Yet I can\u2019t get into pants I wore with ease 10 years ago. It\u2019s very frustrating. Getting up in my years has made my weight redistribute according to doctors. I haven\u2019t figure out where it came from but my tummy expanded, even as I lost weight. Needless to say, I don\u2019t like that this happened. But, since it\u2019s part of growing older and I love me, I\u2019ve embraced my tummy with love.<\/p>\n

My tummy has served me well over the years! It protected my daughter when I was pregnant and expanded to make room for her to grow. It protects many of my important organs.<\/p>\n

Yet there are so many negative terms for a tummy that isn\u2019t flat, like having a spare tire or a muffin top. And many people beat themselves up for not having perfectly flat abs. When I got down to my lowest weight I did too. After all, I used to have a flat tummy and now I weigh less and have all this excess stuff that I must camouflage if it pops up over the rim of my pants and does look like a spare tire through my shirt.<\/p>\n

Then I stopped myself and accepted that it\u2019s just part of the natural process of life. Instead, I focus on being grateful for being healthy and keeping my body I good shape, despite my excess in the middle. Female hormones keep the tummy soft. The tummy is your core. And surprisingly, despite how it looks mine is very healthy\u2014and fit! I have strong muscles from all the weight training I do. My personal trainer and I joke that if I could get rid of my outer flab the definition I have on my abs would show.<\/p>\n

So I continue working out and trying to eat healthy to make that happen. When you strengthen your core, you increase your ability to have good balance and draw strength from it for other activities. When I life weights, my tummy muscles help me. So I love my tummy now, despite its flab! And I\u2019m slowly making progress on decreasing it with healthy eating and exercise.<\/p>\n

So\u2014love your tummy! It serves you well, plus it\u2019s part of YOU. Don\u2019t beat up on yourself for having some extra stuff in your middle. Accept that it\u2019s part of you if you want strong self-love. Embrace all that is you and work on making yourself s healthy as possible. That\u2019s self-loving!
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Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days .\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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