{"id":5092,"date":"2014-01-08T12:01:50","date_gmt":"2014-01-08T17:01:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=5092"},"modified":"2014-01-08T14:55:46","modified_gmt":"2014-01-08T19:55:46","slug":"i-love-me-tip-say-kind-reassuring-word-to-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2014\/01\/i-love-me-tip-say-kind-reassuring-word-to-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"\u201cI Love Me\u201d Tip: Say Kind, Reassuring Words to Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Self-Love<\/a><\/p>\n

Today is Day 8 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"*<\/a>It\u2019s so easy to put ourselves down, I talked about in my post Are You a Bully\u2014to Yourself<\/strong><\/a>? Making mistakes can bring out negative self-talk, which is often on autopilot. Break that habit and replace it with a habit of kind, gentle self-talk\u2014all day long!<\/p>\n

* \u201dI\u2019m trying my best and hat\u2019s good enough.\u201d
\n*\u201cI\u2019m a wonderful person with a good heart.\u201d
\n*\u201cI\u2019m perfectly capable of getting this job done.\u201d
\n*\u201cI can do it! I can do it!\u201d<\/p>\n

And extend that habit to other people. Reassure the people around you when you see one struggling with fear of self-doubt. This will make you feel good too! Reassuring words are a goo way to say, “I love me!”
\n**************<\/p>\n

Join The Self-Love Movement\u2122!<\/strong><\/a> Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a>—\u201cI commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 31 days<\/strong>.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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