{"id":4972,"date":"2013-12-10T12:01:16","date_gmt":"2013-12-10T17:01:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4972"},"modified":"2013-11-23T11:44:33","modified_gmt":"2013-11-23T16:44:33","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-surrendering-to-whats-happening","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/12\/law-of-attraction-in-action-surrendering-to-whats-happening.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Surrendering to What\u2019s Happening"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"LOAlogoBLOG\"<\/a>This is post 263 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Something is going on that you don\u2019t like. You may get upset about it. It\u2019s happened to me many times. It can be something serious or just an inconvenience but in the moment it doesn\u2019t feel good. And that creates negative emotions, which won\u2019t attract a positive resolution to it. Perhaps you:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Lose an account a work.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Miss your train and will be late for work.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Don\u2019t get the investment for your business that you\u2019d hoped for.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Get dumped by your romantic partner.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Catch the flu during your busiest time at work.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Have a big fight with your mom<\/p>\n

Or a million other things. But you don\u2019t need to turn a bad day or a setback into a bad life. Wallowing in how lousy you feel can do that since the Law of Attraction will pick up on your bad feelings and keep giving you more to feel bad about.\u00a0 I know how awful those kinds of things can make you feel. I\u2019m not advising you to ignore them and feel joy during those times. Instead, allow yourself time to process what happened by surrendering to the reality of what happened. That doesn\u2019t mean putting your feelings aside or letting them control you. It does mean accepting that it happened without letting your thoughts come up with all the bad things that can come from it.<\/p>\n

Letting the negatives invade your consciousness creates resistance to things working out. You may initially feel angry, frustrated, scared, or hurt. Feel those emotions and then accept what happened as just the way it is, without blaming yourself or labeling it with things like, \u201dI have bad luck\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t know how I\u2019ll handle this\u201d or \u201cWoe is me.\u201d Those thoughts make your situation worse because you won\u2019t be able to attract what you\u00a0 need to get past it.\u00a0 Jut relax Don\u2019t look for what you could have done to avert it. Just accept that it happened, and relax in that acceptance. When you can do that you can begin to find solution or get over it.<\/p>\n

If you walk into work late\u00a0 knowing it was beyond your control, it\u2019s more likely your boss will accept that. If you keep your cool about losing an investment, you\u2019re more likely to attract another one. If you calmly accept that it\u2019s over with your romantic partner, you\u2019re more likely to meet someone else. If you accept that you have the flu you can give yourself he best self-care and attract a quick recovery, which won\u2019t happened if you keep bemoaning being sick.<\/p>\n

When you can surrender and accept hat happened, you also release the negative feelings around it. Then you\u2019re in a better place to find solutions and get past the circumstances.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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