{"id":4968,"date":"2013-12-05T12:01:23","date_gmt":"2013-12-05T17:01:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4968"},"modified":"2013-12-01T22:06:17","modified_gmt":"2013-12-02T03:06:17","slug":"pride-vs-being-full-of-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/12\/pride-vs-being-full-of-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Pride vs. Being Full of Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"blowing<\/a>Self-appreciation is a good quality.\u00a0 It helps you build pride in yourself. I often recommend writing a list of all your good qualities and owning them to help build self-love. But self-appreciation and having strong pride doesn\u2019t mean being full of yourself. When you truly own who you are as a self-empowered person you don\u2019t need to prove your worth to others. In my Law of\u00a0 Attraction: Pride<\/strong><\/a> post, I talked about how having real pride can attract more things to be proud of. Being a braggart doesn\u2019t do that.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve found that excessive bragging is a sign of insecurity. When you\u2019ve been a DoorMat and begin your journey to feel better, you don\u2019t automatically start with good self-esteem. At first, you may tout your accomplishments and demand attention to the point of nausea, to compensate for the real deal. This isn’t good self-esteem and reinforces that you still need outside validation. Just impress yourself. Others will notice without your bragging.<\/p>\n

People get turned off by excessive bragging. That can attract sarcastic or negative comments that hurt your feelings. If you find yourself talking about your accomplishments a lot, try to catch yourself. Think about why you do it. What are you trying to prove? When I began my trip of DoorMatville, I had some major accomplishments, which felt fabulous after years of feeling bad about myself and believing I’d never achieve anything special. It felt so good that I couldn\u2019t stop bragging. It was still hard to believe anyone would like me for me so I tried to earn approval with my accomplishments. When you own yourself, you don\u2019t need to do that!<\/p>\n

People with good self-esteem don’t need to flaunt themselves or stop helping others. As your sense of self grows stronger, control your ego. Once you recognize your strong points, the world won\u2019t need a press release. Theye’ll see it in your demeanor as you live it.
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