{"id":4787,"date":"2013-10-15T12:01:06","date_gmt":"2013-10-15T16:01:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4787"},"modified":"2013-11-23T11:28:36","modified_gmt":"2013-11-23T16:28:36","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-hidden-agendas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/10\/law-of-attraction-in-action-hidden-agendas.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Hidden Agendas"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"LOAlogoBLOG\"<\/a>This is post 255 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

One of the blocks to manifesting more money that really hit home for me when I was writing Tapping into Wealth: How Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Can Help You Clear the Path to Making More Money<\/strong><\/a>, with the fabulous Margaret M. Lynch<\/strong><\/a>, the leading expert for finding and clearing block to getting more money, was that I and many people have hidden agendas when it comes to your desire to manifesing more money or success.<\/p>\n

Hidden agendas are many things you\u2019ve connected to achieving your desires. It\u2019s usually an extra benefit of reaching your goals, that has nothing to do with the goal itself. Often these agendas are tied to something you want to prove. \u201cWhen I reach my goal\u201d:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019ll finally feel validated that I was right about choosing\u00a0 my career path.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019ll finally prove to my family\/teachers that I\u2019m smart and talented.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019ll finally prove to my father that I\u2019m not a loser.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I can\u2019t wait to see their faces when I get promoted.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019ll finally show that I\u2019m good enough.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0The boss who fired me will be sorry when he sees how far I\u2019ve come.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019ll finally earn everyone\u2019s respect.<\/p>\n

These agendas often fill an emotional need that pushes you to succeed. I recognized a hidden agenda in me that I\u2019d never considered. Growing up I was very creative and had non-traditional visions of things I wanted to do. Most of my family went on to get illustrious degrees that led to prestigious careers. I got married at twenty and settled for being a teacher, which I never wanted to be. But I married a teacher and everyone pushed me to do it. Since I was a DoorMat, I did what I was told.\"Tapping<\/a><\/p>\n

Over the years, nobody took me seriously when I talked about reinventing myself and I felt like the black sheep of my family. Everyone saw me as a flake when I became the first white female rapper on a dare, and one of the first women to start a record label. Those were huge accomplishments but seemed odd to traditional people.\u00a0 It made me feel badly about myself and hurt my self-esteem. I carried those feelings with me for many years.<\/p>\n

As I wrote Tapping into Wealth<\/a>, I recognized that I had a hidden agenda\u2014a reason to succeed that had nothing to do with my actual goal.\u00a0 I had attached my need to validate my talents and ability\u2014to prove that I deserved to be taken seriously and get respect. I wanted to show my family that they were wrong about me! But that’s not a good reason to go after a goal! It puts negative emotions on it. All those all feelings played into the vibration I sent to the Universe and they became block sto my getting the money and success I desired. Plus, wanting to prove something to someone can add more pressure to your efforts to achieve your goal, and pressure stresses you out, which adds more negativity to your manifesting vibration.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not achieving your goals, think about whether you have an personal agenda and are going after it to show someone up or prove your worth to someone. Those agendas can sabotage your attempts. I cleared mine with Tapping and also bring conscious of it helped me to let go of them.\u00a0 Using EFT can clear the blocks that create resistance to getting what you want as I discussed in\u00a0 my post, Law of Attraction in Action:<\/b> Use EFT (Tapping) to Clear Resistance.<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

When you stop tying your goals to needing to reach them to prove something or to validate your worth, or something else that has nothing to do with the achievement, you clear some of the blocks that the Law of Attraction will pick up on. It sure helped me! Respect yourself, even if others don’t. Own your efforts with pride. Don’t worry about what others think. As I said in yesterday\u2019s post, Be the Master of You Fate and Captain of Our Soul<\/strong><\/a>. Let your passions and goals guide you, not a desire to make someone see you in a better light. See yourself in a good light so your vibration reflects that.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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