{"id":477,"date":"2010-11-29T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2010-11-29T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/11\/i-challenge-you-to-love-yourself.html"},"modified":"2010-11-29T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2010-11-29T12:01:00","slug":"i-challenge-you-to-love-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/11\/i-challenge-you-to-love-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"I Challenge You to Love Yourself!"},"content":{"rendered":"
January Is Self-Love Month<\/b><\/div>\n
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Most people I encounter say they want to love themselves. Most self-help books encourage you to build it. Loving yourself strengthens confidence, helps you accept yourself as you are, motivates taking care of self, and a gazillion more benefits. The biggest, in my opinion, is that self-love stimulates happiness–the contented, joyful, appreciating life kind. Sounds good right? It is! <\/p>\n

That’s why I’m challenging you to start 2011 with consciousness about loving yourself.<\/b><\/p>\n

So if people want self-love, and know that it will help them, why don’t more people love themselves? <\/p>\n

You can’t just decide to love yourself, and make it happen instantly. Self-love has to be developed, baby step by baby step. Wanting it isn’t enough. Yearning for it won’t begin the process. It took me years to get from being a DoorMat who hated herself to having very strong self-love. Each step I took made me feel a little better. The better I felt, the more I wanted to do for me. Self-loving acts create a synergy that nurtures the growth of self-love.<\/b> I want you to love yourself and become as happy as I am! I know you can.<\/p>\n

That’s why I registered January as Self-Love Month and have a 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/a> on my new website, HowDoILoveMe.com<\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

A successful way to build self-love is to do loving things for you. When I treated myself more kindly, I began a love affair with me. Consciously being kinder to self keeps you more aware of the need to treat yourself with love. Because I want you to love yourself more, I’ve launched HowDoILoveMe.com<\/a>, and am asking YOU to sign a pledge<\/a>: <\/p>\n

“I pledge to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, on every day of January 2011.”<\/b><\/p>\n

I want to raise your consciousness with my 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge! If you take the pledge and really try to do something self-loving every day, hopefully you’ll continue this after January. Every time you do something nice for you, you say, “I love me!” Every time you say “no” to something you don’t want to do, every time you speak up for yourself, every time you consciously treat yourself to something, however small, every time you stop self-criticism, every time you do something that makes you feel good, you say, “I love me!”<\/p>\n

Each little loving thing you do for you is a brick in the foundation of self-love.
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<\/param><\/param><\/param><\/embed><\/object>This project has been my dream for years and years. I feel so blessed to be able to help others build self-love. This has been my calling from God and I’m blessed to be able to finally do it. I’ve said that I’m giving my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways <\/b><\/a>away for free. I’m pleased to say it can now be downloaded on my site. There’s a video<\/a> of me on the homepage and on YouTube about the project.<\/p>\n

I need YOUR help.<\/b> <\/p>\n

Please spread the word for me about my 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/b><\/a> on http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a>. Let your Facebook fans know. Twitter it. Send it to your mailing list or everyone you know. Many of you have said my blog helps you. Please help me help more people! SIGN THE PLEDGE!<\/b><\/a> Doing so is an act of self-love in itself. I need lots of people to sign for this to be a success. The more people who sign, the more people who will know about it and the more love there will be. <\/p>\n

We can make this world a better place by building our own self-love and spreading the word to others that they can do it too.<\/b><\/p>\n

I CHALLENGE YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF! <\/b>Do you want to? Then take that first step–sign my pledge<\/b><\/a> and do your best to do something loving for yourself on every day of January. Start your new year right. This can be the best New Year’s resolution you’ll ever make! It will help you open many doors to a better life.<\/p>\n

Please forward the link to http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a> or to my introductory video on YouTube<\/a>. I appreciate all support.<\/b><\/p>\n

I have postcards advertising the project. If anyone can give them out or leave them somewhere–a church, yoga center, school, store, etc–send me your name and address to daylle@daylle.com and I’ll mail some to you. We can do this together–spread the word about building self-love.
 
Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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