{"id":4718,"date":"2013-09-23T12:01:38","date_gmt":"2013-09-23T16:01:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4718"},"modified":"2013-08-17T23:31:18","modified_gmt":"2013-08-18T03:31:18","slug":"losing-yourself-in-diets","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/09\/losing-yourself-in-diets.html","title":{"rendered":"Losing Yourself in Diets"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"file0001521479849\"<\/a>Dieting seems to be a national pastime. Even skinny people tend to explain the extra pound they must lose. Do you think that models who look beautiful and starve themselves to maintain standards set by an industry are happy? Seeing them probably does more to hurt an average woman\u2019s self-esteem than almost anything else. Looking at models and airbrushed celebrities in magazines can make you feel too big, but they\u2019re often airbrushed. I\u2019ve met some models and in person they don\u2019t look as good, unless you think emaciated looks good.<\/p>\n

Going on and off of diets isn\u2019t the way to be in shape, and it\u2019s unloving to you if you abuse yourself, ss many people do by alternating between depriving yourself and pigging out when you go off. I\u2019ve found the key to get fitter\u2014whether it\u2019s losing weight or toning up\u2014is you have to want it bad enough to do what you have to do. Like with any desire to change, it\u2019s easy to declare what you want to do things differently. But it\u2019s much harder to carry out your desires. Those desires can help you create excuses, which I\u2019ve brrn guilty of:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I\u2019d love to go for a run but the weather hasn\u2019t cooperated when I\u2019m free.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 I\u2019ve been trying to stay off sugar but I had a lot of events to go to and sweets were given to me.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0I need to eat more healthy but money is tight right now and I think it would cost more.<\/p>\n

Making excuses for not doing what you say you want to do means you don\u2019t want it bad enough. And the excuses help alleviate your guilt about not trying.\u00a0 But excuses don\u2019t help you lose weight. Nor does going on one fad diet after another. I\u2019ve learned that starting diets often and not sticking to them hurts you. Each time you go off it you can feel like a failure, which is an unloving way to be.<\/p>\n

Erma Bombeck said, \u201cIn two decades I’ve lost a total of 789 pounds. I should be hanging from a charm bracelet.\u201d<\/p>\n

Yo-yo (up and down) dieting is unhealthy and doesn\u2019t get your body to where you want it to be. Creating a healthier lifestyle because you love and care about yourself is the best \u201cdiet.\u201d It took me years to break unhealthy habits, like needing dessert (sweets) after every meal, and create new healthy ones. I now think of it as taking control of my need for food, not depriving myself. I love me and want to be healthy. Knowing that my body is in better shape is much more satisfying than a bag of chips or a cookie. Love yourself enough to get out of the yo-yo diet cycle and start to create new eating habits that you stick to. That\u2019s the best way to be healthy, which often can result in weight loss.
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