{"id":4616,"date":"2013-06-20T13:03:59","date_gmt":"2013-06-20T17:03:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4616"},"modified":"2013-06-20T13:06:59","modified_gmt":"2013-06-20T17:06:59","slug":"james-gandolfini-passing-at-51-your-mortality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/06\/james-gandolfini-passing-at-51-your-mortality.html","title":{"rendered":"James Gandolfini Passing at 51 & Your Mortality"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"OwnYourLife\"<\/a>When I heard that James Gandolfini had died suddenly of a heart attack, my first thought was, \u201cHe was only 51!\u201d Ouch! As we get older it\u2019s harder to hear about people dying young, and these days, 51 is young. It can feel scary to hear about and make you question your own mortality. It did for me\u2014for a minute! Then I chose to<\/p>\n

While we can\u2019t control everything that happens to us, we can do a lot to protect ourselves with good self-care. The more you love yourself, the more you\u2019ll want to take care of your body. We usually start out by feeling invincible when we\u2019re young. We smoke and drink and eat too much sugar and junk food and make excuses for not exercising. Then the years tick by and news of people dying, especially those who are so familiar to us\u2014like Tony Soprano\u2014passing away before they get old, can make us conscious of death. \u201cWill it be my turn soon?\u201d<\/p>\n

That can make you feel powerless. Gandolfini was on vacation and had no intention of having his life end. But while you can\u2019t fully control how long you\u2019ll live, you can do things that can give you the best chance of living a long life, in good health. Ask yourself if you want to live a long life more than you want to hold onto bad habits. It\u2019s easy to choose living longer but harder to do what it might take. Neither I, or anyone can guarantee longevity no matter what you do. But you can do your best to stack the deck in your favor.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Reduce stress.<\/strong> Stress is the foundation of many health issues. Research also shows that it greatly contributes to heart disease, Alzheimer’s disease, wrinkles, hair loss, poor digestion, headaches, insomnia and gray hair. It also compromises your immune system and damages your cells and accelerates aging. Try doing relaxation breathing<\/a>, yoga<\/a>, meditation,<\/a> exercise and more to manage your stress.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do things that make you happy<\/strong>. The more you feel good, the more your body responds with good health.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Begin to say \u201cno\u201d<\/strong><\/a> to things you don\u2019t want to do. Often saying \u201cyes\u201d increases stress and makes you unhappy.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Look for stress triggers and try to avoid them<\/strong>. Limit time with people who aggravate you. Find a new job if yours stresses you out, make a to-do list and decide what you can skip and whatever else sends your stress through the roof.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Watch what you eat<\/strong><\/a>. I still eat sweets, junk food and fries occasionally but I\u2019m careful about eating healthy most of the time. Get your anti-oxidants!<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Control your cravings for unhealthy things using the Law of Attraction<\/strong><\/a>. Whether it\u2019s sugar, alcohol, cigarettes or a need to party excessively, you can rein in your cravings if you want to live longer.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Exercise regularly<\/strong><\/a>.Do weight training to strengthen your bones and cardio to keep your heart healthy. Plus, once to start doing it, it makes you feel good overall and helps you control your weight.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Get enough sleep<\/strong><\/a>. Not getting enough puts stress on your body and you don\u2019t function at full capacity. A good night\u2019s sleep make you feel so good.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Expect to live a long time in good health.<\/strong> Let the Law of Attraction help you have it!<\/p>\n

The more you take good are of yourself, the more you give yourself a chance to live longer, and in good health. Don\u2019t worry about what happens to other people. You don\u2019t know what was going on with them. Focus on making yourself the best you can be and on living a long, healthy life so you get spiritual support for doing so.<\/p>\n

May James Gandolfini rest in peace!<\/strong>
\n***************<\/p>\n

Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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