{"id":458,"date":"2010-12-13T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2010-12-13T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/12\/giving-back-one-rose.html"},"modified":"2010-12-13T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2010-12-13T12:01:00","slug":"giving-back-one-rose","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/12\/giving-back-one-rose.html","title":{"rendered":"Giving Back: One Rose"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Yellow<\/a><\/form>\n

There’s
\na Japanese woman in my building who’s lived here as long as me. We
\nalways say hello on the elevator but that’s about it. Her English isn’t
\ngreat so our conversations have been limited. But she always smiles and I
\nsmile back. I don’t know her name. I do know she lives on the 4th floor
\nand has some sisters who come over. And, her mother comes for visits in
\na wheel chair. <\/p>\n

Today she spoke to me in a way that language didn’t matter.<\/b><\/p>\n

She
\nsaw me enter my building and held the elevator for me. As I thanked
\nher, she indicated it was her pleasure as she nodded her head at me with
\na smile. She was carrying a large bulky package that she tried to keep
\nbalanced. She’s a teeny lady, very thin and petite in every way so it
\nkind of overwhelmed her. Suddenly, she dug into the package and pulled
\nout a gorgeous yellow rose. <\/p>\n

It wasn’t the kind sold at the corner
\ndeli. This was a long-stemmed one with a long stalk. She smiled as she
\noffered it to me. I was so touched. She had no way of knowing but yellow
\nroses remind me of my lovely mother, who passed away years ago. As I
\nlooked at the rose, I felt like my mother was sending me a message as
\nshe smiled down at me from heaven.<\/p>\n

One rose. So much
\nsignificance. The kindness in that gesture really touched me. I don’t
\neven know her name yet she gave me a rose that’s now sitting in a vase
\non my nightstand. It was a good reminder of how wonderful a little act
\nof kindness can be. This woman simply reached out to a neighbor whose
\nname she didn’t know with a rose. One rose. So beautiful. <\/p>\n

Small acts of kindness can have a big affect on the receiver.<\/b><\/p>\n

What
\nmight seem like nothing to you can make a big difference for someone
\nelse. I will use this reminder to make more of an effort to do small,
\nkind things for people. While you might not recognize what something you
\ndo does for the other person, it can mean the world. Often something
\nthat’s so not a big deal for you to do can mean the world to someone who
\nneeded what you did. I advise you to keep your eyes open for things you
\ncan do to be kind to others. It will come back to you multiplied. <\/p>\n

Plus,
\njust getting the warm appreciation is a gift in itself.<\/b><\/p>\n

Pay
\nattention. Help someone old cross the street. Give a homeless person a
\ndollar. Smile at people. Ask a neighbor if she needs something at the
\nstore you’re going to. Bring food to a sick friend. When you look, you
\ncan find many ways to be a blessing to someone else. Try a bit of random
\nkindness. It can brighten your day too!<\/p>\n

Try to do some act of kindness for everyone you encounter tomorrow. It can be as simple as a warm smile or greeting<\/b>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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