{"id":4511,"date":"2013-07-22T12:01:20","date_gmt":"2013-07-22T16:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4511"},"modified":"2013-06-04T12:18:52","modified_gmt":"2013-06-04T16:18:52","slug":"be-your-best-you-today","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/07\/be-your-best-you-today.html","title":{"rendered":"Be Your Best You Today"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you\u2019re not happy, yo\"best\"<\/a>u look to the future to begin to\u00a0 feel good about yourself and who you are. But why wait? Chances are if you can\u2019t make right now work, the future may not get any better. If you want to feel good about you and let more happiness into your life, do what you can to be your best every day.<\/p>\n

When I was a DoorMat, I didn\u2019t care much about how I looked. If anything I tried to wear things to distract attention from me. I wore bright colored shirts so people wouldn\u2019t notice what was in them if they were attracted to the colors. I wore huge earring so more attention would be paid to them than to my face. I never wore makeup and didn\u2019t do much with my hair, which I felt was hopeless, so why bother? So it was no surprise that I felt lousy about me. My self-esteem was in the toilet and self-love was a concept I couldn\u2019t understand.<\/p>\n

After an experience attending a Mary Key Cosmetics party, which I talked about in my article, How My Self-Love Began at a Mary Kay Cosmetics Party<\/strong><\/a>, I began to wear a little eye makeup. I felt prettier and liked myself more. Slowly I began paying more attention to my appearance. I found a good hair stylist who introduced me to products that controlled what always thought of as \u201cthe bush.\u201d People noticed and compliments flowed in about how nice I looked. I began to pay more attention to what I wore. That made me feel better about myself. It helped me increase my self-esteem and build strong self-love.<\/p>\n

Slowly I went through my closet and gave away any clothes that I didn\u2019t really like or that wasn\u2019t flattering. As I felt better about me, my style became more subdued\u2014no more bright clothing to distract! I remember going shopping with my dad and buying a pair of earrings with small amethyst drops hanging down. When my dad saw them, he was surprised and said, \u2018That\u2019s not you.\u201d He was used to the big dangling earrings.\u00a0 I smiled and said that was me now. It was a defining moment.<\/p>\n

Do what you can to be at your best as much as you can\u2014for you. It feels so great to know you look good when you go out. Of course there are days when a comfy pair of sweats feels right and that\u2019s fine. But the more you pay attention to being at your best, the more confident you\u2019ll become. And that allows self-love to bloom and makes life happier in general.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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