{"id":4486,"date":"2013-07-12T12:01:53","date_gmt":"2013-07-12T16:01:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4486"},"modified":"2013-06-03T18:34:03","modified_gmt":"2013-06-03T22:34:03","slug":"i-do-therefore-i-am","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/07\/i-do-therefore-i-am.html","title":{"rendered":"I Do, Therefore I Am"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"writing\"<\/a>Many times over the years I\u2019ve heard, \u201cYou are what you eat.\u201d It\u2019s used in commercials for healthy eating and to discourage people from overeating fattening foods. And I often use Decartes quote, \u201cI think, therefore I am\u201d to encourage people to fake confidence until you actually develop it. But it\u2019s also true that you are what you do.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0How do you treat people?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0How hard do you work?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you procrastinate?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Are you always ethical?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you have solid faith or let anxiety and fear drive you?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you carry around negative emotions, like anger, resentment disappointment, etc.?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you take advantage of people\/
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you make others more important than you?<\/p>\n

The way you behave adds up to who you are as a person. If you don\u2019t like yourself look for what behavior you can change. \u201cI do, therefore I am.\u201d If you make others more important than you, you\u2019re a people pleaser. If you treat everyone with respect and do your best to be kind, you\u2019re an ethical person. If you always procrastinate, you\u2019re probably someone with good intentions who rarely reaches his or her goals.<\/p>\n

Of course it\u2019s good to pay attention to your thoughts. They can drive you toward or away from your goals. But it\u2019s also important to be aware of how what you do defines you. That includes your bad habits. For years I had lots of clutter in my life and was fairly sloppy. When I realized it reflected who I was I made an effort to clean up my act. Getting rid of my habit of leaving things around and keeping stuff I didn\u2019t need made me feel so much better about myself.<\/p>\n

Being late is another reflection of you. Everything you do is a piece of who you are. To empower yourself, try to weed out behavior that doesn\u2019t define you positively. Pay attention to how what you do affects your self-image and the way you see yourself. When I procrastinate, I feel guilty and frustrated. That\u2019s not good for my self-esteem. When I make a to-do list and check things off I feel great.<\/p>\n

\u201cI do, therefore I am.\u201d<\/p>\n

What do you do to look good as a person. What\u2019s your definition based on your actions? Do your best to monitor what you do so you can feel good about who you are!
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