{"id":4460,"date":"2013-07-02T12:01:23","date_gmt":"2013-07-02T16:01:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4460"},"modified":"2013-07-01T12:31:19","modified_gmt":"2013-07-01T16:31:19","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-independence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/07\/law-of-attraction-in-action-independence.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Independence"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"LOAlogoBLOG\"<\/a>This is post 241 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong> <\/a>to see how.<\/p>\n

Independence Day is this week in the US. I was thinking about how having independence, or not having it, speaks to the Law of Attraction. When I was a DoorMat I was very dependent on people for my happiness. Yet I didn\u2019t really feel happy. Being dependent takes the power for your life out of your hands and tells the Law of Attraction that you don\u2019t value yourself and your ability to take care of you and find happiness within.<\/p>\n

Dependence screams that you have a lack of trust and don’t believe you\u2019ll get what you want on your own. Trust is important for manifesting. Dependence creates fear since you may worry that the persons you depend on will disappear. That greatly increases your chances of becoming a people pleaser in order to keep those you depend on around. That tells the Universe that you consider other people more important than you.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, developing independence expresses trust that you can take care of yourself. As your faith gets strong, you can take charge of your life. When I left DoorMatville. I learned to enjoy doing activities on my own. Basically, I began to own my life. I gave myself permission to set boundaries on what I did for others and began to do things for myself that I used to depend on others for. I learned how to fix things around my apartment and began to attract healthy guys because I had a life.<\/p>\n

I call it Healthy Independence. Some people think it means \u201cI don\u2019t need anyone.\u201d We all need support from others and it\u2019s nice to receive it. But it\u2019s nice to know you can take care of yourself if support isn\u2019t handy. You shouldn\u2019t scoff help or love from others. Just do what you have to for yourself and enjoy what you get from those who care about you.<\/p>\n

In my book, All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise<\/strong><\/a>, which was just release in its 15th Anniversary edition, I have a motto for women\u2014\u201cIf you want a man, get a life.\u201d That means learning to enjoy things on your own, develop interests you enjoy, and the ability to be responsible for your own happiness. Building self-love helps you to do that. So tell the Universe you trust that you can take care of yourself because you know that you\u2019ll get spiritual support in doing so. When you have a sense of happy independence the Law of Attraction will work with you to get your needs met.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE.<\/strong><\/a>
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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