{"id":4457,"date":"2013-07-01T12:01:49","date_gmt":"2013-07-01T16:01:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4457"},"modified":"2013-05-27T12:55:19","modified_gmt":"2013-05-27T16:55:19","slug":"why-you-shouldnt-be-discouraged","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/07\/why-you-shouldnt-be-discouraged.html","title":{"rendered":"Why You Shouldn’t Be Discouraged"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"victory\"<\/a>I encourage people to go after their dreams. The benefits can be life-altering. Yet taking risks can feel scary. Often we think of all the bad things that can happen if you go after what you want. If you get discouraged because things happen that you don’t like or you fail at something, you’ll never reach your dreams and will always be wanting. But taking risks lead to a happier life. Making an effort can mean pushing any failures or fear of failing aside for the big picture of winning.<\/p>\n

Failure can come with taking risks. But you can recover from it and try again. It doesn\u2019t matter what you\u2019ve been told that you can\u2019t do. If you choose to try, you have a chance. If you don\u2019t succeed at first, you can try again. I was terrified to try anything new when I was a DoorMat but now I know that taking a chance on something you\u2019d love can open doors, even if it\u2019s now the one you\u2019re going after not.<\/p>\n

T.S. Eliot said, “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out just how far one can go.”<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re on the fence about pursuing your passions because you\u2019re scared or think you can\u2019t do it, watch this video. You\u2019ll see the obstacles and doubts some great people endured before they succeeded.
\nhttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=RmTxr7OsPj0<\/a><\/p>\n

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