{"id":4426,"date":"2013-06-13T12:01:46","date_gmt":"2013-06-13T16:01:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4426"},"modified":"2013-05-14T17:53:40","modified_gmt":"2013-05-14T21:53:40","slug":"how-to-do-things-you-could-never-imagine","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/06\/how-to-do-things-you-could-never-imagine.html","title":{"rendered":"How to Do Things You Could Never Imagine Doing"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"How<\/a>Trying new things is a great way to increase your self-empowerment. Knowing that you did something gives you confidence to try more new things. You may have to overcome fear in order to do something that seems hard. When I was a DoorMat, I stuck to what was familiar. I didn\u2019t want to risk failing at something I\u2019d never done. It kept me in a box, limiting what I did. There were things I would love to have done but I was too intimidated to try. Then I recognized that there were resources for learning how to do things.<\/p>\n

My first venture was taking an auto-mechanics 8-week class at an adult education program.\u00a0 I was sick of being ripped off by mechanics and wanted to learn about cars. I wasn\u2019t looking to always fix my car. But I wanted to do something. I still remember how I felt when I volunteered to change the brakes on my car. I was both excited and terrified. I reminded myself that the instructor would be watching so I wouldn\u2019t do something wrong that would keep my brakes from working on the way home.<\/p>\n

With his guidance, I did it! Pride welled up in me, not just for accomplishing it but for putting my fear of trying aside. After the class I didn\u2019t go on to fix everything on my car. I did change the spark plugs and little things like that a few time. But I felt empowered about knowing the basics of cars. It helped me speak intelligently to my mechanic. And came in handy when my car broke down and I had to rely on a mechanic I didn\u2019t know, He told me he had to replace something that was a very expensive job.<\/p>\n

I used what I learned in my classes to ask the right questions and discerned that he was trying to rip a woman off. I asked him to do the smaller work to get the car running and drove it to my trusted mechanic. I was right! They were trying to do work that wasn\u2019t necessary. If I hadn\u2019t taken the auto mechanics class I would have gotten ripped off.<\/p>\n

So how can you try something new? I recently got a book called How to Do Absolutely Everything: Homegrown Projects from Real Do-It-Yourself Experts<\/strong><\/a> (Skyhorse Publishing).\u00a0 It has a wild assortment of projects you can do with step-by-step instructions by experts. They range from practical suggestions, like how to remove gum from clothes to crafty suggestions like how to make a sewing organizer to kitchen treats, like how to make authentic pretzels, cake pops and much, much more.<\/p>\n

Some of the things are projects for science minded folks, some for pets. But I\u2019ve tackled a few and the instructions are quite clear. However you want to do it, find something new to tackle and do it. It will make a big difference in your confidence! You can learn how to do just about anything if you set your mind to it and look for resources or someone to teach you.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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