{"id":4397,"date":"2013-08-02T12:01:44","date_gmt":"2013-08-02T16:01:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4397"},"modified":"2013-06-10T18:41:58","modified_gmt":"2013-06-10T22:41:58","slug":"can-you-will-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/08\/can-you-will-you.html","title":{"rendered":"Can You? Will You?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Yes,<\/a>Often we do believe that we can do something but do nothing. When my confidence was low, people encouraged me to do things but I didn\u2019t. I knew I was capable but something held me back. Often fear keeps us from going forward. I was pushed to write books but didn\u2019t. I knew I could write well. My teacher in sixth grade wrote in my autograph book, \u201cSomeday you\u2019ll be a famous author.\u201d I wrote articles and small things but never a book.<\/p>\n

When people asked me, \u201cCan you write a book?\u201d I\u2019d say \u201cYes.\u201d Then they\u2019d wonder why the book didn\u2019t happen.\u201d But they didn\u2019t ask the right questions.\u00a0 Yes, I was capable of writing a book. But the key question should have been, \u201cWill you write a book?\u201d That would have been harder to answer. Something held me back. Fear made me unwilling to try. I was scared no one would like my books. Or maybe I\u2019d discover that I actually couldn\u2019t write.<\/p>\n

But I wanted to! I actually began writing books but no one ever saw them since I didn\u2019t try to get one published. Eventually I asked myself that key question: \u201cWill I write a book? Am I willing to try?\u201d I thought about it Then I asked myself:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat am I afraid of?\u201d I was scared of failing at writing\u2014that people wouldn\u2019t like what I wrote.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cCan I handle my worst fears coming true?\u201d I wouldn\u2019t like to fail but I\u2019d live and learn.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat could trying teach me?\u201d That failing at something doesn\u2019t make you a failure if you keep trying.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cWhat could I gain from trying?\u201d I could get to write for a living!<\/p>\n

After considering it I said, \u201cYes.\u201d Then I said, \u201cYES!\u201d Then I screamed, \u201cYES!\u201d And now I\u2019m on my fourteenth and fifteenth books. Your first step to doing what you\u2019d love begins with answering, \u201cYes\u201d to \u201cWill I?\u201d Even if what you try for doesn\u2019t work out at first, keep asking, Will I?\u201d And keep going. Learn from what doesn\u2019t work. Instead of it defeating you, let it motivate you to succeed.<\/p>\n

So, \u201cAre you capable of doing what you say you want?\u201d Will you try? Work on getting to yes and you\u2019ll find your way to a joyous life.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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