{"id":4374,"date":"2013-06-17T12:01:40","date_gmt":"2013-06-17T16:01:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4374"},"modified":"2013-05-11T14:02:44","modified_gmt":"2013-05-11T18:02:44","slug":"getting-up-after-being-knocked-down","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/06\/getting-up-after-being-knocked-down.html","title":{"rendered":"Getting Up After Being Knocked Down"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"boxing\"<\/a>It\u2019s not uncommon to have life circumstances knock you down. So much is out of your control. The people who ran in the Boston Marathon, or came to watch it, didn\u2019t expect a bomb to go off. People get knocked down in other ways every day. It can make you want to stay in and avoid life. Or you may want to run away from your life when something that meant a lot to you tanks. For example:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0You put your hopes into getting the perfect job you applied for and someone else gets it.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Your romantic partner leaves you.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0You\u2019re in an accident that leaves you injured and it interferes with your ability to work.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Your business fails.
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Your investments lose their value
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0You lose your home.<\/p>\n

Many people are going through tough times as the economy continues to knock us all down a bit. It\u2019s how you handle it that counts. It\u2019s your decision to let it break you or to get up when you get knocked down. Life isn\u2019t over until it\u2019s over. Plenty of boxers get knocked down over and over but get up \u2013often bruised and bloody\u2014and get that one punch in that wins the match. If you stay down it\u2019s hard to come back swinging. If you feel like life is knocking you down, stand up and yell:<\/p>\n

I\u2019m still here!!!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re still here. You didn\u2019t die from what happened. Maybe your ego or sense of security did but you\u2019re still here. And while you\u2019re still here you can pick yourself up and do your best to move on from the knockout punch life gave you. You can lie there and retreat into misery or depression or remember that you\u2019re still here and can find your way out of it.<\/p>\n

Steve Jobs \u201cSometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.\u201d<\/p>\n

There are always options. There will be other job opportunities and romantic partners, you can heal from your accident, you can save to start another business and rent a home for a while. I know it might not be easy to get through it but if you keep your faith strong and affirm, \u201cThings are getting better,\u201d they will. It\u2019s your choice to wallow in the darkness of how your situation makes you feel or let the light of faith in.<\/p>\n

We all go through tough times at some point. When I had some, I\u2019d have never imagined being where I am now. But I kept affirming that everything happens for a reason and faithfully put myself into God\u2019s hands. It took time to get myself together but I never quit. Getting out of DoorMatville, where I often felt knocked down, was the hardest and best thing that I fought to do. But I did it and you can too. When life knocks you down, allow yourself a few days to grieve, then start looking for ways to get up. It takes perseverance and faith, both of which you can muster if you want to get your life back.
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