{"id":4355,"date":"2013-05-23T12:01:41","date_gmt":"2013-05-23T16:01:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4355"},"modified":"2013-05-06T15:49:40","modified_gmt":"2013-05-06T19:49:40","slug":"is-it-time-to-reinvent-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/05\/is-it-time-to-reinvent-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Is it time to Reinvent Yourself?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"NOT<\/a>I recently attended SPARK, the National Association Of Professional Women’s Networking conference<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0 There were fabulous speakers, including, Arianna Huffington, Martha Stewart and Star Jones. But one who really stood out to me was Danielle Miller<\/strong><\/a>, brand strategist\/reinvention coach. After hearing Danielle speak, I had to get some of her advice to pass on. Her suggestions for reinventing yourself are practical and easy to use, IF you really want to evolve.<\/p>\n

I remember how hard it was for me to consider reinvention when I was a DoorMat.\u00a0 People said it was too late for me, but I finally decided not to listen. Had I known Danielle back then my transition would have been easier.\u00a0 Here\u2019s some of her tips for how to reinvent yourself:<\/p>\n

What holds many of us back from success?<\/strong> We undervalue our strengths\u2014\u201cAnybody could have done that.\u201d You need to recognize your strengths\u2014those innate things about you. They\u2019re probably intangible. Ask people. Take assessments. It\u2019s important to reassess the things you\u2019re doing now. <\/strong>It\u2019s about really understanding your strengths and not downplay the strengths that come so easily to us. We don\u2019t toot our own horn. We don\u2019t recognize that the experiences we have give us the skills to take somewhere else. Decide that you want o be happy by finding satisfaction and fulfillment.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s something\u00a0 important that people should do?<\/strong> Create a support system. It\u2019s all about managing your energy. Minimize the people who drain your energy because they don\u2019t help you. Keep your true friends close. They will be honest with you about whether you should do something or not.<\/p>\n

How important do you feel goals are?<\/strong> Goals are great but don\u2019t tie yourself to them too much.\u00a0 Take one step in front of the other. We get so tied to goals that we don\u2019t see opportunities right in front of us. Make your goals specific. Focus on goals for the next two or three years. Be realistic. If you\u2019ve had the same goal for years, get rid of it because it\u2019s draining you.<\/p>\n

How can people take baby steps to success?<\/strong> Pick on e thing and get good at it. Then go on to the next. The more you can learn about yourself and grow, the more you can evolve. Make a plan but be open to the opportunities in front of you. Don\u2019t miss them b\/c you\u2019re focused on a plan.<\/p>\n

How would you define reinvention?<\/strong> Conscious control of change. Building on who you already are.<\/p>\n

What would you say to someone who says they were told they\u2019re too old to reinvent themselves?<\/strong> That\u2019s a story that we tend to loop over and over again. You don\u2019t have to buy into other people\u2019s stories. I don\u2019t think it\u2019s harder. I think the stories we tell ourselves become more ingrained. The process is the same. We\u2019ve bumped up into more walls as we get older and we tend to start following a path where there aren\u2019t walls. When we bump into the walls and haven\u2019t had success we stop.<\/p>\n

Some advice for self-reinvention? You need to recognize that your journey is unique. There\u2019s no right or wrong way to do it. And you can reinvent as much or little as you like. Take what works for you and leave the rest behind. You have to work harder than you think you possibly can. You can\u2019t hold grudges\u2014it\u2019s hard but you can\u2019t hold grudges. And it doesn\u2019t matter how you get knocked down in life, because that\u2019s going to happen. All that matter is you\u2019ve got to get up.
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