{"id":4339,"date":"2013-05-30T12:01:20","date_gmt":"2013-05-30T16:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4339"},"modified":"2013-05-06T15:25:23","modified_gmt":"2013-05-06T19:25:23","slug":"why-do-you-want-to-lose-weight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/05\/why-do-you-want-to-lose-weight.html","title":{"rendered":"Why Do You Want to Lose Weight?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"PatBarone\"<\/a>I write a lot about the benefits of gratitude but never thought of it in relation to helping lose weight. That\u2019s why I\u2019m thrilled to have Pat Barone<\/strong><\/a> as my guest today. Pat has defied all the odds life stacked against her and lived to tell her tale. The child of addicts, she often felt addiction was the only possible way to live. Healing her own addiction taught her to live life backwards, dropping off baggage and bad attitudes along the way. When not writing and coaching clients to brilliant lives, she teaches and practices yoga. \u00a0Pat met her spiritual guide at age 25, and has been healing herself and the world ever since. Here\u2019s what she has to say about gratitude and weight loss lists.<\/p>\n

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How \u201cThe Weight Loss List\u201d Became a New Level of Gratitude
\nby Pat Barone<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

In an effort to clear my office of clutter, I recently began a scrounge-and-purge operation. I don\u2019t consider myself a hoarder in any way.\u00a0 I\u2019ve learned to let go of old stuff, old fat, and, most importantly, old beliefs.\u00a0You might say I love releasing things that don\u2019t serve me. But, it\u2019s amazing what can hide in bookshelves, beneath a stack of reading material, or in office cubbies.<\/p>\n

Recently, as I was knee-deep in the recycle bin, I came across a series of old notebooks. I always keep a notebook with me.\u00a0It might serve as a place to journal, make a to-do list, or plan the year 2035. I long-ago realized I can\u2019t keep all the parts of my life separate, so everything goes in the one notebook I have nearby.<\/p>\n

The day before Thanksgiving, I found myself going through a notebook from early in my final weight loss journey. I have no idea what cued the list I found\u2026 but I was actively losing weight and must have realized, or read somewhere, that I should hook into the rewards of the task I was planning.<\/p>\n

So, here\u2019s my list \u2013 the reasons why I wanted to lose weight permanently:<\/strong>
\n1.\u00a0 I\u2019ll feel connected to my body, no static in between it and me.
\n2.\u00a0 I\u2019ll be the essence of me, no excess anywhere.
\n3.\u00a0 I\u2019ll look better in clothes and find it easy to shop.
\n4.\u00a0 It will show I walk my talk.\u00a0 I say I want to be a healthy weight and embody health, and that will be apparent.
\n5.\u00a0 Food will cease to be a focal point in my life.
\n6.\u00a0 I\u2019ll show love without food.
\n7.\u00a0 I\u2019ll love myself and others more deeply and purely.\u00a0My expression of this love will be clean and simple and authentic.
\n8.\u00a0 I\u2019ll honor my body.
\n9.\u00a0 I\u2019ll be as I was meant to be.\u00a0 I won\u2019t carry my inadequacies and disappointments on my hips.<\/p>\n

And here\u2019s what\u2019s important about this ten-year-old list: Today, it\u2019s all true.\u00a0 Every word of it.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I\u2019m very grateful for all the wonder in my life.\u00a0I\u2019m even more inspired to look back and see what I have created.\u00a0 I always had doubt, but my intention from those words somehow carried me through the doubt, the hard times, the heartbreak and meandering roads that make up life. What do you want to create?\u00a0 In ten years, what will be on the list you find? The list you write today?
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\nWrite your own list of the good you’ll have when you lose weight. Let it motivate you to love yourself enough to take healthier are of you.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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