{"id":4282,"date":"2013-05-14T12:01:31","date_gmt":"2013-05-14T16:01:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4282"},"modified":"2013-04-19T10:54:17","modified_gmt":"2013-04-19T14:54:17","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-being-cheap-with-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/05\/law-of-attraction-in-action-being-cheap-with-yourself.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Being Cheap with Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 235 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Last week I talked about Being Cheap with Friends<\/strong><\/a>. There are different dynamics when you\u2019re cheap with yourself. Haggling over a few bucks when you pay a check is petty cheapness. But being personally cheap affects you and your income more intensely. Depriving yourself of splurges or small treats tells the Universe that you don\u2019t feel worthy of good stuff and that you don\u2019t DESERVE to have more than you have. If you hesitate to spend money on things you\u2019d enjoy because you feel you should save or you shouldn\u2019t spend the money (with no real reason), you reinforce having a low value of yourself, which strongly influences what you do or don’t attract.<\/p>\n

Often fear of not having enough money is the underlying factor of being cheap with yourself. But a bigger issue is at play here. When you love yourself, you want to do things that make you happy. There\u2019s a big difference between not being cheap and overspending beyond your means. When you\u2019re scared of not having enough money it can be hard to distinguish between them. Not cheap means occasionally treating yourself to something that makes you happy. You might save for massages or spend the extra money to buy the better brand of something. That probably won\u2019t break the bank and isn\u2019t overspending beyond your means, which is just reckless.<\/p>\n

Often we\u2019re more likely to spend money on people we love than on ourselves. We splurge on gifts for others and are cheap about gifts for ourselves. If you do that it\u2019s not loving to you! I\u2019ve encountered many people who will find a way to buy something special for a friend but not for themselves. And if it\u2019s a romantic partner, people often don\u2019t think twice. People pleasers buy to please others. When you have strong self-love, you want to buy to please YOU! And that tell the Universe that you deserve more, and the Law of Attraction is more likely to being you more.<\/p>\n

The more generous you are with yourself and your needs, the more likely you are to attract more good stuff, and money. When you spend like you already have more money (without putting yourself into debt of course), it’s more likely you\u2019ll have the money for the splurges you make. Fearless spending creates a vibration of knowing you have the money coming and that you believe in your value. Being\u00a0 scared to spend on yourself tells the Universe you aren\u2019t worthy of more. Guess which one will bring you lots more? Love yourself enough to not be cheap with yourself. It feels good and attract a lot more.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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