{"id":4243,"date":"2013-04-26T12:01:41","date_gmt":"2013-04-26T16:01:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4243"},"modified":"2013-04-03T17:13:02","modified_gmt":"2013-04-03T21:13:02","slug":"are-you-a-doormat-take-the-people-pleaser-quiz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/04\/are-you-a-doormat-take-the-people-pleaser-quiz.html","title":{"rendered":"Are You A Doormat? Take the People Pleaser Quiz"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Are you confused about whether or not you\u2019re so much of a people pleaser that you\u2019ve reached DoorMat level, or you’ve convinced yourself you\u2019re just a nice person? Below is a quiz listing things you may do but don\u2019t feel good about. Take this quiz every few weeks as you work on yourself and see if your score increases. Be honest. Write down your answers. Nobody will see your answers but you.<\/p>\n

People Pleaser Quiz<\/strong>
\nAnswer on a scale of 1-10, as to how like you are to do these. One is most likely. Ten means it\u2019s absolutely not true.
\n1. I\u2019d loan money to someone who already owes me.
\n2. I take phone messages, even if they don\u2019t take mine.
\n3. I call people two or three times if they don\u2019t return my calls.
\n4. If someone doesn\u2019t call as promised, I call.
\n5. I make excuses to others for someone\u2019s inconsiderate behavior toward me.
\n6. I make excuses to myself for inconsiderate behavior toward me.
\n7. If someone is inconsiderate or mean to me, I assume it\u2019s my fault.
\n8. I\u2019d rather treat a friend to dinner or a movie than go alone.
\n9. If I have a car I\u2019d loan it to a friend.
\n10. I try to see good in everyone and ignore negatives.
\n11. Friends can always count on me, even if I can\u2019t count on them.
\n12. I always worry about what others think of me.
\n13. It bothers me a lot when someone doesn\u2019t like me.
\n14. I don\u2019t stand up to people because I\u2019m scared of what might happen.
\n15. I repeat the same mistakes, even if it hurts me to do so.
\n16. I hate saying \u201cno.\u201d
\n17. Being alone scares me enough to keep friends happy at my own expense.
\n18. I see myself as a wimp about dealing with people.
\n19. I respond to situations the way others want me to instead of how I\u2019d like.
\n20. I don\u2019t like myself.<\/p>\n

Think about your answers and what you can do to get a higher score. Make an effort to work on empowering yourself and breaking old people pleasing habits. Take the quiz again in a month and see if you have any progress.
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