{"id":4136,"date":"2013-04-01T12:01:52","date_gmt":"2013-04-01T16:01:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4136"},"modified":"2013-03-25T21:01:16","modified_gmt":"2013-03-26T01:01:16","slug":"if-not-now-when","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/04\/if-not-now-when.html","title":{"rendered":"If Not Now\u2014When?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Did the resolutions you made last year fail to become true? It’s easy to decide what you want but much harder to get yourself to do what’s necessary. I\u2019ve been through this too. I\u2019ve had some dreams for years and intended to bring them to fruition\u2014one day! The time was always in the future. I knew there was something on the horizon but never went beyond that.\u00a0 And I never thought about why I put things off, I just did. This is common. You want something and decide that one day you\u2019ll make it happen. But a variety of reasons\u2014fear, doubt about yourself, concern about it taking too much time, worrying you won\u2019t be able to afford it, or that you don\u2019t know enough to be successful, etc. \u2014keep you stuck in seeing it happening maybe in the future–but not right now!<\/p>\n

I went through this with my dream to begin The Self-Love Movement\u2122. God called me to do it and give my self-love book,\u00a0How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> away for free. But I didn\u2019t know how to achieve it. I kept talking about it but made no progress. It made me feel bad and frustrated. But I felt stuck in the \u201dsomeday\u201d mode and didn\u2019t know how to get myself to take the first steps. Then I got a quote in an email that I think God arranged:<\/p>\n

\u201cIf not now, when?\u201d Hillel<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

This has always been one of my favorite quotes because it makes so much sense. And it put a fire under me. I repeated it over and over and asked in the mirror: \u201cIf not now, when?\u201d Thinking about it I recognized that every year is another one gone by without realizing my dream, and that\u2019s not how I want it to be. I asked myself other questions? \u201cAt what point will you be ready? When you\u2019re 75 or 100?” The years have ticked by as I stalled on launching my initiative. I reminded myself that God sent me to do it and therefore would be there with me as I worked to get it off the ground.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf not now, when?\u201d It\u2019s something we should all ask ourselves regularly about things we put off, whether it\u2019s a major dream or a chore that you don\u2019t like doing. The more you ask, \u201cIf not now, when?\u201d the more it will get you thinking about why you\u2019re putting something off and more importantly, why you should make the effort to do it.<\/p>\n

After doing that myself, I decided I\u2019d invest in a good website and hire a coach to guide me. I asked God for help and got some money I wasn\u2019t expecting. That paid for it. Whenever I questioned why I was taking on such a big initiative, I asked myself \u201cIf not now, when?\u201d It motivated me to keep going until I actually launched The Self-Love Movement\u2122. Had I not continued to ask \u201cIf not now, when?\u201d I\u2018d still be dreaming of doing it in the future. The next time you put something off, ask yourself, \u201cIf not now, when?\u201d If you don\u2019t have a good answer, make the effort to stop putting it off and take steps to get whatever it is done. Doing so is very satisfying in the long run.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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