{"id":412,"date":"2010-08-31T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2010-08-31T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/08\/law-of-attraction-in-action-thinking-big.html"},"modified":"2010-08-31T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2010-08-31T12:01:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-thinking-big","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/08\/law-of-attraction-in-action-thinking-big.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Thinking Big"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Thumbnail<\/a><\/span>This is post 102 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Sometimes I ask a client what their goals are. They modestly tell me about some small thing they want. Often they clarify that they don’t want to expect too much, since a small success is enough for them. I hear details about why they don’t want to be greedy and shoot for the moon or have God think they’re pigs for expecting too much. To all of that I say—balderdash!!<\/b><\/p>\n

What you expect reflects what you think you’re worth. <\/b><\/p>\n

When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s hard to think big. But that’s exactly what you should be doing to change your mindset. Otherwise, you tell the Universe that you don’t deserve or need much, and guess how the Law of Attraction responds to that? Yep, you don’t get much! Why limit your possibilities by limiting your expectations? <\/p>\n

If you only expect a little, chances are you’ll never get a lot.<\/b><\/p>\n

And you should get a lot! I had to learn that. I always felt I should limit what I should have or do. Insecurity helped me determine my goals, which were more stuff to just exist than to prosper and find lots of joy. I hated myself when I lived in DoorMatville and believed I wasn’t worthy of good stuff. So the Law of Attraction didn’t respond with much good stuff! It gave me what I expected. <\/p>\n

People pleasers are good at giving but not at receiving, so you can block yourself from attracting lots of goodies<\/b>. <\/p>\n

Why stop yourself from being happy? DoorMats don’t need others to make them feel bad and undeserving and unable to get the great job or make lots of money or start a super successful business or find the most wonderful romantic partner or all the other glorious things we can attract by thinking big. That’s for other people! It was beyond my range of thoughts to think I could ever have any of that–until I began to love myself and accept that I deserve it all. <\/p>\n

Donald Trump said, “I like Thinking Big. If you’re going to be thinking anyway, you might as well Think Big.”<\/b> <\/p>\n

People say that they’re scared to think big since it can lead to disappointment. That’s sending an expectation of disappointment out for the Law of Attraction to support. As your faith gets stronger, you’ll be able to quell those fears and negative expectations more. It begins with taking the first step into faith and sending out a bigger expectation than you normally do. As you get results, it gets easier. If you think and act unworthy of good, you settle for bits of joy. Let go of limitations about setting goals for yourself. <\/p>\n

I used to just pray for specific things, so as not to be a greedy girl. Now that I believe God wants me to be happy, I’m in oink mode!<\/b> <\/p>\n

I’m no longer guilty or apologetic about asking for goodies in many areas. Why not? We can get support for the best life possible. I finally recognize that I deserve the whole enchilada! Not a piece of it. Not leftovers. Not what others want for me. The whole enchilada! In all areas of my life. So do you! Don’t feel guilty or greedy for expecting it all. Oink!  Try it! Oink mode rocks when you get what you told the Law of Attraction you expected in BIG terms.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series here<\/a>. <\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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