{"id":4048,"date":"2013-03-05T12:01:11","date_gmt":"2013-03-05T17:01:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4048"},"modified":"2013-01-30T19:23:43","modified_gmt":"2013-01-31T00:23:43","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-deserving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/03\/law-of-attraction-in-action-deserving.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Deserving"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 226 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

People seem to think you have to work for good\u2014earn it. That it didn\u2019t just come unless you work for it. When I was a DoorMat I thought I had to deserve it. Of course I didn\u2019t think I deserved it so I didn\u2019t get much good. But you don\u2019t have to be a DoorMat to not think you deserve or have earned lots and lots of good. The misconception about what\u2019s needed to attract the goodies you want is rampant.<\/p>\n

Truth: Good is yours for the taking\u2014there right in front of you. It\u2019s up to YOU to ask for it with expectation.<\/p>\n

That sounds simple but if it were, everyone would get everything they want. It\u2019s not. Old messages from childhood and life in general can dampen your faith. If you\u2019ve experienced a lot of criticism, you may feel, at least deep down, subconsciously, that you aren\u2019t worthy of what you want. If you hate yourself, it\u2019s hard to attract someone who loves you. Insecurity can block your mental efforts for attracting a good new job.<\/p>\n

You have to believe you DESERVE the good you say you want.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to want good things and to say the words. \u201cI want more money!\u201d \u201cMy health must improve!\u201d \u201cI have to meet a good romantic partner!\u201d Even the worst DoorMats yearn for lots of things. And if just wanting something badly was enough to manifest, we\u2019d be so much happier. But as I said, it\u2019s not so simple. On the other hand, it can be simple.<\/p>\n

When you work on loving yourself enough to feel deserving like I have, manifesting becomes a process you can easily do with some consciousness.<\/p>\n

Remember, your thoughts attract your reality. If your dominant ones are negative, the vibration you put out is negative, no matter how much you want something. Not loving yourself makes you feel undeserving. Doubts are created by not feeling deserving. Fear comes when you\u2019re worried that you aren\u2019t good enough to get what you want. Thoughts that indicate you don\u2019t deserve what you want obstruct your ability to attract it. They may be subconscious but they\u2019re there if it\u2019s what you feel. For example:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI want loving friends and a partner but why would anyone love me?\u201d<\/strong> If you don\u2019t love yourself, it\u2019s hard to feel deserving of receiving love. You may say you want love but the best way to attract a healthy person is to be loving to you first. The more you love yourself, the more you\u2019ll feeling deserving of love from others.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cHow can I get the job I want since there are probably people applying who are better than me.\u201d<\/strong> If you don\u2019t feel you deserve the job because you have good assets, the person hiring won\u2019t either. Think about exactly where you feel lacking and get better! Take a class or hire someone to coach or teach you what you need. When you feel more confident about your ability to do a job, and believe you deserve it others will too!<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u201cI want to write a book but what if I\u2019m not good enough?\u201d<\/strong> If you don\u2019t feel your writing deserves to get published, chances are it won\u2019t. To build confidence, get input from an expert. Take a writing workshop to improve your skills. Consult with a book doctor about what you\u2019ve written to get constructive feedback. Once you\u2019ve polished your writing skills, write down why the book deserves to get a publishing deal.<\/p>\n

Affirming that you DESERVE what you say you want helps you manifest it. The more excited you get as you say it, the more the Universe picks up the good vibrations. And, the more you\u2019ll believe that you do deserve to get what you want! A turning point for me when I lived in DoorMatville was recognizing that I did deserve to get my needs met and to attract good in my life. The more I knew that in my heart, the more I was determined to leave. Slowly, I began my journey out. Since then I\u2019ve taken what I deserve to a whole other planet!<\/p>\n

Until you accept that you deserve to be happy and to have your desires met, you\u2019ll make empty wishes.<\/p>\n

We ALL deserve to be happy. Being overweight or not earning enough money or not feeling as smart as you\u2019d like or making mistakes or a gazillion other flaws you may see in yourself should NOT detract from your worthiness to receive. If you live as a good human being, that\u2019s enough! Don\u2019t postpone manifesting a happy life till you feel perfect enough to deserve it. Good is always there, waiting for you to let it in to your life. Receiving it is always an option if you choose to make it so.<\/p>\n

Good is always in the pipeline for you to manifest! When you accept that you DESERVE to have your desires met NOW, and strongly put it out, the Law of Attraction will respond with your desires being met. Know that lots of good is waiting for you and you deserve it. Then you\u2019ll enjoy the good of a deserving mindset.<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2013 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/strong><\/a>. Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! on Facebook<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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