{"id":4022,"date":"2013-02-22T12:01:07","date_gmt":"2013-02-22T17:01:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4022"},"modified":"2013-01-30T13:54:42","modified_gmt":"2013-01-30T18:54:42","slug":"trust-your-gut","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/02\/trust-your-gut.html","title":{"rendered":"Trust Your Gut"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Have you felt that something wasn\u2019t quite right, but ignored it? Or pushed away doubt? Intuition warns and guides you, when you let it. But you must let it! The subconscious notices what your consciousness doesn\u2019t. If something doesn\u2019t feel right, pay attention. You\u2019d listen to a good feeling. But if your gut suggests letting someone go or taking a stand, you might not. But problems don\u2019t disappear. My client Zina learned:<\/p>\n

I used to ignore uneasy feelings. One said to look for another job but I was too scared. Shortly after, my company downsized and I was let go. Shawna promised to hook me up at her company so I waited and didn\u2019t apply elsewhere, even with a niggling warning not to trust her. Sure enough, Shawna bailed. Yet it took years until I paid attention to my gut. Now I treat gut feelings with respect. It\u2019s saved me a lot more grief.<\/p>\n

Intuition is most effective when you don\u2019t analyze. Take gut reactions at face value. If it\u2019s obvious, go with it. If you\u2019re unsure, leave it. I had strong intuition during college but not after, when I began to analyze everything I felt. Now I think about my initial instinct only. If it\u2019s unclear, I let it pass. Reading into situations with wishful thinking distorts intuition. You get a feeling, think about it, and interpret it. When it doesn\u2019t pan out, you stop trusting your gut. If a hunch is unpleasant, like one about a guy \u2013 listen anyway!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t go deeper and ask friends to help you interpret what your gut is telling you or to find the answer you wish for. Intuition works best with no thinking. Either it\u2019s there or not. Once I stopped analyzing instincts, I was guided. Sometimes we keep asking friends until one tells us an interpretation we like. like Madison did:<\/p>\n

I\u2019d get a feeling and look for good. When Dan smiled, I got a funny feeling and thought my gut said he liked me. Most friends were skeptical but I kept asking until Erin agreed my gut said Dan was into me and encouraged me to go for him. I made my desire feel right, even though something niggled at me that he was just sending a signal that we\u2019re friend.\u00a0 So I made a move on Dan. Guess what? He does like me but he\u2019s gay! My gut must have forgotten to use gaydar. Now I\u2019m more careful about analyzing gut feelings and only act when it\u2019s clear. My gut tried to warn me while my wishful think motivated me to interpret his feelings to what I wanted. Now I try to not analyze.<\/p>\n

Dr. Joyce Brothers said, \u201cTrust your hunches. They’re usually based on facts filed away just below the conscious level.\u201d<\/p>\n

Practice listening to your gut. Intuition is an advantage for us, especially for women! If your head pushes you but your gut feels apprehension, be vigilant. When I\u2019m not sure something is right for me, it usually isn\u2019t. If your gut screams yes, determine if it\u2019s wishful thinking or intuition. If you really KNOW, then go with it. Intuition isn\u2019t some magical feeling. It\u2019s a subtle instinct. The more you love yourself, the more you’ll want to use it. The more you use it, the more you learn to discern the right path.
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