{"id":4003,"date":"2013-02-14T12:01:30","date_gmt":"2013-02-14T17:01:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=4003"},"modified":"2013-01-25T13:31:54","modified_gmt":"2013-01-25T18:31:54","slug":"honor-you-on-valentines-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/02\/honor-you-on-valentines-day.html","title":{"rendered":"Honor YOU on Valentine\u2019s Day!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Happy Valentine\u2019s Day!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the day earmarked for love. But, don\u2019t forget to love yourself, even if you have a romantic partner. I personally think that every day should be a day for love, not just February 14th! Many women look forward to this day for love if they\u2019re in a relationship since their guys tend to be pushed to be romantic. And if you\u2019re not in a relationship, this day for love can be a day of sadness, depression, and feeling low about yourself. This is so unnecessary!<\/p>\n

I admit that I used to be like that. If\u00a0my friend and I had no boyfriends on this special day, we’d go into mourning. We\u2019d walk down the street and look at the flowers each guy carried like daggers in our hearts. We fed each other\u2019s misery and gorged ourselves on chocolate to feel better. This went on for years\u2014until I learned to value the love I have for me.<\/p>\n

You can forget about self-love on Valentine\u2019s Day when the importance of getting love from a romantic partner gets magnified out of proportion. Yet it\u2019s just one date on a calendar. I finally realized that I\u2019m always in a relationship\u2014with me! And that\u2019s the most important love I\u2019ll ever have. You can be in a relationship with YOU. When you build your self-love, you\u2019ll never feel unloved.<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019re in a relationship with a romantic partner or not, honor YOU on Valentine\u2019s Day. Even if your partner has wonderful things planned for you, do something to honor what should be your first and most important love\u2014love for yourself. And if you don\u2019t have a special someone, treat yourself to something special. It can be small but meaningful. Buy yourself a rose or something you love to eat. Plan to spend the evening with a friend at home\u2014watching movies and eating takeout so you don\u2019t get down watching all the couples out.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not in a relationship with a special guy and will be happily honoring me. I\u2019ve planned an evening doing things I enjoy.\u00a0 I won\u2019t lament not having a man this year. I will celebrate me, and the strong self-love I\u2019ve developed. After so many years of having not loving me, I\u2019m so grateful for this wonderful love that I have all the time. So honor yourself today! And tomorrow, and every day! You deserve it<\/strong>!
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