{"id":3928,"date":"2013-01-29T12:01:04","date_gmt":"2013-01-29T17:01:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3928"},"modified":"2013-01-17T18:46:49","modified_gmt":"2013-01-17T23:46:49","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-finding-fault-with-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/01\/law-of-attraction-in-action-finding-fault-with-others.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Finding Fault with Others"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Today is Day 29 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

This is post 221 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

It seems to be human nature to look for what\u2019s wrong with people, especially those who have qualities you\u2019d love to have. Criticizing others might make you feel better about yourself for a minute but it sends a negative vibe for the Law of Attraction to pick up on.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you find fault with other people?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Do you tend to be critical?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you tell the person what you find wrong?
\n\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Do you talk about them and put them down to other people?<\/p>\n

If you do any of this it can come back to you in a negative way. People find fault with others for a variety of reasons. Jealousy can motivate you to look for someone\u2019s imperfections and let them what you found, or share it with mutual friends\/colleagues and have a laugh about it. Insecurity is a big reason that people find fault with others. It can feel like a relief to know that someone seems to be less perfect than you and can give you a short-lived infusion of feeling better about you.<\/p>\n

People with good self-esteem, who love themselves, tend to look for the good in people. When you love yourself, you\u2019re much less likely to look for what\u2019s wrong with someone else. From a Law of Attraction standpoint, if you focus on what\u2019s wrong with someone, it\u2019s hard to attract what\u2019s right. And in the long run, it won\u2019t make you feel better about you. Only self-love can do that! When you look for the good in others, you\u2019ll also find it in yourself and others will find your good too!<\/p>\n

The things you criticize in others also tend to reflect things you don’t like about you. Pay attention when you do it. Then think about what it is that YOU need to work on in yourself. Otherwise you’ll keep attracting more of what you don’t want.<\/p>\n

Focusing on positive things keeps your vibe positive. Looking for the beauty in people makes you feel good, not mean or hurtful. All the emotions created when you look for things to criticize make your vibration negative. Plus, it\u2019s not nice. Next time you find yourself noticing faults in people, consciously tell yourself to look for the good. That will help YOU attract more good!<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Join The <\/strong>Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2012 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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