{"id":3891,"date":"2013-01-22T12:01:33","date_gmt":"2013-01-22T17:01:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3891"},"modified":"2013-01-07T22:32:25","modified_gmt":"2013-01-08T03:32:25","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-old-stories","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2013\/01\/law-of-attraction-in-action-old-stories.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Old stories"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Today is Day 22 of my 31 Days of Self-Love posts to celebrate Self-Love Month<\/a><\/strong> with suggestions for jump-starting your own self-love and joining The Self-Love Movement<\/strong><\/a>\u2122.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>This is post 220 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Living with a positive vibration helps build and keep self-love strong. It also attracts the best things and situations for your life, which feels good and nourishes you. But many of us hold on to old memories of negative things from the past and talk about them as an example of what we don\u2019t want. That reinforces what you don\u2019t want because the Law of Attraction picks up on lack, even if you don\u2019t want it, that you don\u2019t deserve good things, even if you\u2019re working on feeling deserving, and other things you don\u2019t want. When what you don\u2019t want is in your thoughts, or you talk about it, that\u2019s what\u2019s heard and returned to you.<\/p>\n

If you tell stories of how hard it\u2019s been to feel lack, it conflicts with your desire for more money. If you recount stories of past relationships with people who didn\u2019t treat you well, it can defeat any efforts to meet a healthy partner. Often these negative stories are told to show what you\u2019ve been through and why you why you\u2019re determined to attract better than you\u2019ve had in the past. But telling or thinking about these old stories keeps them alive! The Law of Attraction doesn\u2019t interpret whether what you put out is what you want or don\u2019t want. It just reinforces the story you tell or think about. And since negative emotions are stronger than positive ones, they have a stronger effect on your vibration than thinking about what you want.<\/p>\n

Focusing on what you don\u2019t want will not bring you what you desire. When you focus on negative memories that don\u2019t feel good, your vibration is negative. And as I\u2019ve said many times, your vibration attracts what you get. Recalling struggles or negative people or desires falling apart usually will make you feel uncomfortable and sad. It can also trigger feelings of anger, frustration and disappointment, which can trigger doubt and fear about whether history will repeat itself as you try to get the positive things. All of this keeps your vibration negative, and history is likely to repeat itself.<\/p>\n

Change your stories instead! Talk and think about all the good you\u2019re expecting and how your life will improve when you get it. Feel the good vibration of visualizing your life being better, having more money, and a wonderful romantic partner. Only allow yourself to have stories that feel good to tell.. That will bring much happier results. If your vibration is negative, it\u2019s hard to love yourself. When you think about experiences that made you feel unworthy, it\u2019s hard to have a vibration that says you deserve love. Keeping your thoughts and the stories you tell on a positive track sets your vibration to let love in. Positive vibes make you happy, which is a great way to say, \u201cI love me!\u201d<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Join The <\/strong>Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 2012 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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