{"id":3706,"date":"2012-12-10T12:01:16","date_gmt":"2012-12-10T17:01:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3706"},"modified":"2012-12-04T11:00:12","modified_gmt":"2012-12-04T16:00:12","slug":"commit-to-yourself-for-2013","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/12\/commit-to-yourself-for-2013.html","title":{"rendered":"Commit to Yourself for 2013"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>The New Year is coming. It\u2019s a time to rethink your life and how you want to change yours. It\u2019s also a time that you tend to look for what you can do differently in the next year. You might be considering how when 2013 arrives, you\u2019ll be better able to reach your goals. Sounds good, right? But it won\u2019t happen that way unless you commit to doing something very different. A calendar change will make no difference unless YOU change and make the difference.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s fun to make resolutions about what you\u2019ll accomplish in 2013: Will you lose those pounds you\u2019ve wanted to get rid of for ages? Will you finally meet the romantic partner of your dreams? Will you find a way to increase your income to a much higher number? Will you finally be happy? Declaring these things without a plan for how you\u2019ll do make your life better will leave those resolutions in the dust shortly after January 1st, as the things that discouraged you in the past continue to be the same. There\u2019s a better way to start the year that can facilitate your positive changes.<\/p>\n

Loving yourself is touted in almost every self-help book and in many magazine articles. Yet it\u2019s still in short supply. Building self-love can be much more effective than the New Year\u2019s resolutions you make year after year while your life stays the same. There are many benefits for loving yourself, and you can read in my article, 10 Reasons to Love Yourself. http:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/Inspiration\/Galleries\/10-Reasons-to-Love-Yourself.aspx?source=NEWSLETTER&nlsource=61&ppc=&utm_campaign=AfternoonInspiration&utm_source=NL&utm_medium=newsletter&utm_term=daylle.com Begin 2013 by committing to love yourself more! Loving yourself is the best motivation to do the things you need to do to achieve your goals. For example:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0You may hate to diet and exercise<\/strong>. When you love yourself, you WANT to take better care of your body.\u00a0 Every time you eat healthier and get some form of exercise, you say, \u201cI love me!\u201d Doing this for your well being instead of to look better for someone else is a much better motivation. Fitness and good health make you feel even better!<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0It\u2019s frustrating to put a lot of energy into finding a romantic partner and come up empty<\/strong>. That leaves you feeling lonely, incomplete wondering if you\u2019ll ever be worthy of receiving love. When you put that energy into loving you, you\u2019re MUCH more like to attract love into your life. Love attracts love. Self-love makes you more attractive and enables you to know that you\u2019re worthy of the love you give yourself, and get from others. Likes attracts likes!<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Self-love increases confidence and motivates you to work harder on behalf of yourself<\/strong>. It radiates from you in ways that other people can sense, which makes a better impression than feeling desperate for a career opportunity that will greatly increase your income. Working form a place of self-love, instead of frustration, creates a powerful energy that resonates with those who could help you.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 When you love yourself, you know it\u2019s loving to set boundaries<\/strong> about what you say \u201cyes\u201d to and the behavior you\u2019ll tolerate from others. You quickly learn that saying \u201cno\u201d to something you don\u2019t want to do says. \u201cyes\u201d to you, which also says \u201cI love me!\u201d Self-love helps you accept that you need to give your own wants and needs priority\u2014without guilt!<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0It\u2019s hard to be happy when you don\u2019t like yourself.<\/strong> I didn\u2019t recognize how unhappy I\u2019d been until I developed strong self-love. Self-loathing kills happiness. So does making others happy at your expense in an effort to buy acceptance and compensate for the flaws you see in yourself. Loving you\u2014imperfections and all\u2014can facilitate your self-acceptance, which builds inner contentment. That reflects in your attitude and helps you to feel an overall sense of happiness with yourself every day.<\/p>\n

Self-love remains elusive for many people because they don\u2019t know how to begin to build it. It\u2019s harder if you don\u2019t even like yourself. That\u2019s why I, as director of The Self-Love Movement, created the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> \u2014a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the first 31 days of 2013. Instead of making empty resolutions, start the year by being kinder to self! The more you treat yourself with love, the more your self-love will grow. The more your self-love grows, the more you\u2019ll be motivated to take good care of you! Commit to 31 days of self-love and hopefully it will motivate you to commit to a lifetime of love. You\u2019ll get a lot more from doing that than making resolutions.
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Join the Self-Love Movement\u2122<\/strong><\/a>! Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Commitment<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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