{"id":3604,"date":"2012-11-06T12:01:35","date_gmt":"2012-11-06T17:01:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3604"},"modified":"2012-10-01T12:43:18","modified_gmt":"2012-10-01T16:43:18","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-feeling-like-a-phony","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/11\/law-of-attraction-in-action-feeling-like-a-phony.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Feeling Like a Phony"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 211 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Serie<\/strong><\/a>s<\/strong> to see how.<\/p>\n

When I was transitioning from being a DoorMat into being an empowered happy person, I tried to find who I was and what I should be doing. Having never really used my talents, I felt very insecure about many of the things I did. After starting and running my own record label successfully, I began teaching workshops on how to do it. I felt comfortable doing it. But, when several people suggested I write books on music business, it scared me.<\/p>\n

I did fine with my workshops but putting more details down in print felt wrong. I felt like a phony writing as an expert about music business. I didn\u2019t know everything so how could I write books? I tried to do it but it didn\u2019t work. Now I know that it was because I put out a message to the Universe that I was a phony trying to write books, so I couldn\u2019t get further than a few lame tries. Feeling like a phony became my persona and the Law of Attraction reciprocated by keeping me unable to do what was needed.<\/p>\n

Fortunately, a friend came to one of my music business workshops. After hearing me speak, he implored me to write books on the topics I taught. I told him I\u2019d just be an imposter since I didn\u2019t know everything. He laughed and insisted that no one knows everything, but I knew a lot, and could get the info I didn\u2019t know easily. Many music biz pros didn\u2019t know a lot of what I knew. His words got to me and I began to own how much I\u2019d learned and what I could offer by writing books.<\/p>\n

When I felt like a phony, I couldn\u2019t imagine how I could do it, and I attracted a lack of ways to find out. Once I changed my thoughts and got excited about writing the books, ideas came to me easily. I realized that the best way to clarify what I didn\u2019t know was to interview experts. The more confident I became, the more I attracted experts who were happy to share their knowledge in my books.<\/p>\n

Having different points of view from many industry pros actually enhanced the quality of my books. Rather than just me giving my point of view I had an assortment to share. That made my info more valuable. Once I stopped feeling like a phony and owned my place in the music industry, I became like a magnet for good people who could share their expertise. And, by doing those interviews, I learned so much that I began to feel like a real expert. My books are some of the top selling music business books in the world because of it!<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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