{"id":3554,"date":"2012-10-23T12:01:53","date_gmt":"2012-10-23T16:01:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3554"},"modified":"2012-09-23T22:50:13","modified_gmt":"2012-09-24T02:50:13","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-hate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/10\/law-of-attraction-in-action-hate.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Hate"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 209 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

I recently called a friend who answered in a bad mood. \u201cI hate my stove!\u201d Sue blurted out. I asked what her stove did to deserve her hate. She laughed a little, then explained that sometimes is goes off in the middle of cooking which makes it hard to use. It also can take a few tries to get it on. She fumed as she told me about it. When I asked if she\u2019d tried to get it fixed, she got quiet and said she hadn\u2019t. Sue was so focused on her anger at the stove, she didn\u2019t try to do something constructive about it.<\/p>\n

A bigger factor in play was that her anger at the stove reinforced it not working. Hate is a very strong emotion. When you express hating something for a specific reason, you also reinforce the reason with the Law of attraction. So you\u2019ll have more reasons to hate whatever isn\u2019t working. Every time she felt hate for her stove for not working well, it worked a little worse. And, it blocked her from finding a way to get it fixed. Had she instead affirmed that the stove could be fixed and she was happy with it, she\u2019d have attracted a solution more easily.<\/p>\n

This is also an issue when you hate people. I frequently hear, \u201cI hate my boss!\u201d The reasons vary from a boss expects too much work from them to the boss undermines them with mean words and everything in between. But every time you say you hate your boss or someone else, you focus on the behavior you don\u2019t like and will attract more of it.<\/p>\n

Hate can consume us. And it gets you nowhere but bad places. It\u2019s so much better to temper your emotions and let faith help you find a solution or a better way to deal with people who push your buttons. The more you keep hate out of your vibration, the more positive things you can manifest. Hate pervades and can immerse you in the kinds of vibrations that attract what you hate. Which vibration would you prefer?<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a> and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. And you can post your loving acts HERE<\/a><\/strong> to reinforce your intention to love yourself. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts HERE<\/a><\/strong><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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