{"id":349,"date":"2010-05-20T12:01:00","date_gmt":"2010-05-20T12:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/05\/post.html"},"modified":"2010-05-20T12:01:00","modified_gmt":"2010-05-20T12:01:00","slug":"post","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/05\/post.html","title":{"rendered":"Every Day Victories"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"fingers_victory1_xenia.jpg\"<\/a><\/span>I just heard that the US consumes a large majority of anti-depressants.
\nMessages in the media contribute to a majority of the reasons for so
\nmany people being unhappy. Girls grow up with more pressure than ever to
\nhave perfect looks. They see young celebrities getting their bodies
\nworked over in the name of looking perfect. Heidi Montag from The Hills
\nadmits she’s obsessed with plastic surgery as she shows off all the work
\nshe had done. She almost died in the process but would go back for
\nmore! Yet she looks too fake, and older in my eyes.<\/p>\n

Women who
\ncan’t afford to get work done or who just don’t have the face or body to
\nbe perfect feel lousy about themselves, which is the antithesis of
\nself-love.<\/b> <\/p>\n

And guys aren’t immune to feeling depressed about
\nthemselves either. Different issues can make them feel bad, in
\nparticular, not making enough money or having enough power, especially
\nin this bad economy. Appearance–being short, losing hair, not being as
\nmuscular as they see in magazines, being overweight–all can hurt
\nself-esteem in men. Those who’ve lost their jobs or taken pay cuts or
\nwho just can’t get a promotion hear about great success stories and feel
\ninadequate. That contributes to depression and unhappiness.<\/p>\n

The
\nbest way to combat feeling inadequate it to celebrate small victories
\nyou have each day.<\/b><\/p>\n

What is a victory? Anything you do that’s
\npositive. Giving thanks when you wake up is a victory. Getting out for a
\nwalk is a victory. Putting yourself first in something is a victory.
\nBuying yourself a rose is a victory. Stopping to take some deep breaths
\nis a victory. Basically anything you do for yourself that’s positive is a
\nvictory. Don’t just look for the big stuff. Losing twenty pounds would
\nbe nice for you but passing on a cookie you want is a victory. Getting a
\nhuge raise would be wonderful but doing a good job where you are is a
\nvictory. <\/p>\n

Ask yourself, “Do I want to be depressed or happy?”
\n“Miserable or satisfied?”<\/p>\n

<\/b>While you might not consciously
\nchoose the be depressed or miserable, your subconscious picks up on your
\ndissatisfaction with yourself and responds by giving you negative
\nemotions. You can choose to succumb to feeling bad about yourself or
\nconsciously choose to celebrate the good in you and in what you do. The
\noperative word is CHOICE. No Pill can make you happy. They can lift some
\ndepression but only YOU can choose to recognize the good in you and
\naccept yourself as you are now with love. <\/p>\n

Acknowledging your
\nsmall victories can keep negative emotions at bay.<\/p>\n

<\/b>When I was
\na DoorMat, I chose miserable and depressed by hating my cellulite and
\nother things about me. I beat myself up for not being perfect and
\nsuffered with low self-esteemed and tastes of happiness when someone
\nthrew me a bone for a favor. Now I wake up happy every day and look for
\nsmall victories to celebrate. I opened my eyes and smiled. Victory! I
\nate a healthy breakfast. Victory! I looked in the mirror and said, “I
\nlove you!” Victory! I wrote this post. Victory!<\/p>\n

Find your own
\nvictories and let them carry you to a state a self-acceptance<\/b> that
\nbuilds pride in who you are and what you do. Then you’ll enjoy more than
\na taste of happiness and a content life. Focusing on small victories
\nbuild the positive emotions that, like a jigsaw puzzle, piece together
\nto create a happy, satisfying life!<\/p>\n

<\/b>Please leave
\ncomments under my posts so we can stay connected. <\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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