{"id":347,"date":"2007-09-07T12:51:00","date_gmt":"2007-09-07T12:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2007\/09\/i-blew-off-fashion-rocks-concert.html"},"modified":"2007-09-07T12:51:00","modified_gmt":"2007-09-07T12:51:00","slug":"i-blew-off-fashion-rocks-concert","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2007\/09\/i-blew-off-fashion-rocks-concert.html","title":{"rendered":"I Blew Off Fashion Rocks Concert!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight:bold\">It was empowering to walk away from the Fashion Rocks concert<\/span>. There were many celebrities there. Okay, I confess, I wasn\u2019t going as a guest. A few weeks ago I was asked if I\u2019d like to be a seat filler\u2014someone who sits in the empty seat of someone on stage or other reasons a seat is empty. <\/p>\n<p>I thought it would be fun to be a seat filler at an event like this. It probably would be for many folks. I don\u2019t live far from Radio City and got there at 5PM. The event began at 8. <span style=\"font-weight:bold\">It was packed. They began to push us closer and closer together on the street. It was warm and humid<\/span>. I longed to return to the writing I left. I was on a roll. <span style=\"font-weight:bold\">Did I want to wait in this throng of people for 3 hours<\/span> just for the chance to get inside? <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:bold\">NO!!<\/span><\/p>\n<p>In the past I did what I was supposed to. I committed to doing this. And I was supposed to want to do this. But I didn\u2019t!! <span style=\"font-weight:bold\">I stood there wishing I could still be at home, happily writing<\/span>. The cops pushed us closer together. I was sweating and not a happy camper at all. <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight:bold\">Instead of thinking \u201cwhat should I do?\u201d I asked myself, \u201cwhat do you want to do?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Home baby! HOME! So I pushed my way through the pack of sweaty people and walked home, happily. I was excited to make a decision that felt good to me. <span style=\"font-weight:bold\">We often think about what everyone else would want use to do when making decisions<\/span>. When I was a People Pleaser I\u2019d have never just done what felt good for me. <span style=\"font-weight:bold\">Self-love has changed that!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It was empowering to walk away from the Fashion Rocks concert. There were many celebrities there. Okay, I confess, I wasn\u2019t going as a guest. 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