{"id":3421,"date":"2012-08-17T12:01:39","date_gmt":"2012-08-17T16:01:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3421"},"modified":"2012-07-30T12:20:22","modified_gmt":"2012-07-30T16:20:22","slug":"the-healing-power-of-forgiving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/08\/the-healing-power-of-forgiving.html","title":{"rendered":"The Healing Power of Forgiving"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>There\u2019s a lot said about forgiving others when they do something you don\u2019t like, or that hurts you or that\u2019s downright wrong. Yet it\u2019s still so hard for people to forgive someone who did them wrong. What\u2019s hard to understand is that forgiving is not for the other person, no matter what they did to you. It\u2019s for you. You don\u2019t even have to tell the person who did you wrong that you forgive him or her.<\/p>\n

Until you forgive, it\u2019s hard to let the negative emotions attached to your memory of what happened. You\u2019ll hold onto all of it and it will keep you from healing. The emotions can eat you up inside and keep you in a negative frame of mind, or complaining a lot.<\/p>\n

Best reason to forgive: Unless you forgive, you allow the other person to stay under your skin, to continue to hurt you, over and over.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Caroline Myss is brilliant at helping people to heal. Below you can hear her talk about the fabulous importance of forgiving the things we\u2019ve held onto from past incidents. It releases energy that allows you to move forward more. Think about who you can forgive, picture them, express how you felt when the person did what they did to you, let out any emotions you feel about it, and then forgive the person in your heart and let it go. It really frees you! And forgiving is a great way to say “I love me” because it leaves you feeling better!
\nhttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=2sZKwLoLiaI<\/a>
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