{"id":3391,"date":"2012-09-25T12:01:54","date_gmt":"2012-09-25T16:01:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3391"},"modified":"2012-07-30T13:39:10","modified_gmt":"2012-07-30T17:39:10","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-habits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/09\/law-of-attraction-in-action-habits.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Habits"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 205 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

We all have behavior that we do by habit. It might be an expression you use to respond to certain things or a face you make when you don\u2019t like something or a million other things that are unique to you. But we also have habits of responding to situations that don\u2019t serve us well for getting positive results from the Law of Attraction. Some habits don\u2019t mean much. But others are automatic negative responses that can make a situation worse. Since you get back what you put out, each time you respond negatively, you attract more of it. Or your habit can become part of your personality, which can foster unhappiness.<\/p>\n

For example, when you hear that someone has a chip on their shoulder, it usually means that person is in the habit of responding to words or circumstances or types of people that are reminiscent of a time he or she got burnt, hurt, etc or they\u2019re reminded of a person who hurt them long ago. Someone who she trusted to work with on a project may have double-crossed her and now she\u2019s negatively wary of anyone she has to work with. Or he was burnt badly by his first wife who took him to the cleaners and now has an attitude toward all women.<\/p>\n

When your attitude reflects that you expect people to do you wrong, you\u2019re more likely to attract those types and it keeps you locked in the bad mood that began with your negative experience.<\/p>\n

Habits that contribute to what the Law of Attraction responds to are often unconscious, ingrained responses that you make on auto-pilot. You may wonder why certain things keep happening and keep coming to you without realizing that you\u2019re attracting them with your auto-response. For example:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0After a few little things go wrong, you say, \u201cWhy does everything bad happen to me?\u201d After a few time where several things in a row go wrong, that question can pop up in your head whenever things don\u2019t go right. But, each time you say it, you attract things going wrong.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0You might automatically say \u201cWoe is me!\u201d when something goes wrong, which attract more things to be woeful about.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Acting up emotionally when you don\u2019t get your way is another bad habit that attracts negatives.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Women are known for complaining that there are no good single guys available after dating a guy who hurts them. Can you guess why they don\u2019t meet good guys?<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0If your mom tends to bug you, anything she does that isn\u2019t to your liking can trigger a defensive remark or action that attracts more static between you.<\/p>\n

\u2022\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0One that I caught\u00a0 myself saying was, \u201cThis computer always messes up when I\u2019m in a hurry.\u201d Hmm.. Since I stopped saying that my computer rarely messes up when I\u2019m in a hurry.<\/p>\n

The good news is when you watch for these habits and become aware of when you do them, you can break them. Begin to catch yourself from automatically saying negative things. Make an effort to talk things out with the person annoying you and find better ways to deal with what you don\u2019t like. It can take time and vigilance but you can break these habits. Years ago, a spiritual friend said she knew why I hadn\u2019t met a decent guy for a long time. It\u2019s because whenever the subject of men came up I\u2019d say, \u201cAll the good guys in NY are taken.\u201d Shortly after I replaced that habit with \u201cMany of the good guys in NY are taken but there\u2019s a good one for me,\u201d I met a good guy.<\/p>\n

Being unhappy is a habit. Expecting bad things to happen is a habit. So is being happy and looking forward to great experiences. Remember, the Law of Attraction doesn\u2019t choose what you get. You do, with your thoughts. So make sure you clean up any negative habits that may contribute to you getting what you don\u2019t want so you can get more of what you do want!<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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