{"id":325,"date":"2007-09-28T15:08:00","date_gmt":"2007-09-28T15:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2007\/09\/are-women-less-happy-than-men.html"},"modified":"2007-09-28T15:08:00","modified_gmt":"2007-09-28T15:08:00","slug":"are-women-less-happy-than-men","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2007\/09\/are-women-less-happy-than-men.html","title":{"rendered":"Are Women Less Happy than Men?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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An article in the NY Times this week was called He\u2019s Happier, She\u2019s Less So<\/a><\/span> It discussed the results of a study that said nowadays, men are happier. Years ago, studies showed women to be the happier of the sexes. But times have changed! <\/p>\n

One difference pointed out is that men enjoy being with their families more. One reason assessed is that women associate visits to parents more with tasks, men with watching ballgames on TV and relaxing. I agree with that, and more. Growing up, girls are expected to help around the house. Guys are often more pampered by mom.<\/span> And catered to. A guy\u2019s experience is more fun than having to clear the table or do the dishes. <\/p>\n

The study also notes that women have more work than ever, with full time jobs at work and home. In the past, women were taught that happiness came from having a husband, a clean house and kids. Nowadays that doesn\u2019t cut it. Yet many women still look to marriage and kids as key factors for attaining happiness<\/span>. Unfortunately, many go to great lengths to achieve those goals and discover that they\u2019re still not happy.<\/p>\n

Putting all your energy into searching for and trapping a husband can wear you out.<\/span> You might feel like a loser if you don\u2019t find someone, as folks ask when you\u2019re going to find a husband. Many men are happy playing with their tech toys, watching sports, drinking with friends, and more. Women haven\u2019t quite learned how to have as much fun without a partner. Some do. I do. But more don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Women also have more overt happiness busters. There\u2019s so much pressure on us to look good\u2014have a fat-free body, youthful skin, well-behaved hair, etc.<\/span> Most of us don\u2019t come by all of those things naturally and the struggle to attain them can dampen happiness. But the a belief that women need to look a certain way to get a man keeps triggers a need to keep trying to improve appearance.<\/p>\n

I had the husband but it didn\u2019t make me happy, since twenty was too young for me to have a life. At the moment I don\u2019t even have a boyfriend, yet I think I\u2019m happier than a great majority of women in relationships. I love my work and life feels wonderful. While I\u2019m open to meeting a guy who\u2019d make my life more delicious, I\u2019m not out hunting for one. I know he\u2019ll be there at the right time. Strong faith allows me to relax and be happy either way.<\/p>\n

It takes developing a life on your own to be happy<\/span>. Male or female, if your don\u2019t feel in control of your life and aren\u2019t content on your own, it\u2019s hard to feel consistently happy<\/span>. You might have happy moments. But they don\u2019t last long. Pay attention to what you consider circumstances for being happy. Then reevaluate them, since you shouldn\u2019t need circumstances if you\u2019re happy on the inside. Once I consciously did more loving things for me, my happiness lasted longer and longer. Now it\u2019s an overriding feeling every day. You can find that too and change the results of the study I referred to!

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