{"id":3153,"date":"2012-06-26T12:01:33","date_gmt":"2012-06-26T16:01:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/?p=3153"},"modified":"2012-05-09T12:05:50","modified_gmt":"2012-05-09T16:05:50","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-how-saying-no-yo-something-can-hurt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2012\/06\/law-of-attraction-in-action-how-saying-no-yo-something-can-hurt.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: How Saying \u201cNo\u201d to Something Can Backfire"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 193 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to manifest your desires.. I do it every day! Read all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series<\/strong><\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Often we think we\u2019re doing a good thing by saying \u201cno\u201d to something that\u2019s not good for us or that we don\u2019t want. You might be fighting the urge to have a big dessert when you\u2019re trying to lose weight or that you\u2019re not going to have financial problems much longer or saying \u201cno\u201d to another bad relationship. The trouble is, saying \u201cno\u201d to something negative reinforces what you don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n

Every time you affirm \u201cNo more bad relationships,\u201d the Universe hears \u201cbad relationships,\u201d and guess what you\u2019ll attract? Another partner who\u2019s no good for you. If you say no more struggling to pay bills, the Universe hears, \u201cstruggling to pay bills\u201d and you\u2019ll continue to struggle.<\/p>\n

The Law of Attraction doesn\u2019t determine whether what you say is what you want or don\u2019t want. It brings what you say. So while you may think you\u2019re doing very well in affirming your desires, saying what you don\u2019t want will bring you more of what you don\u2019t want. That\u2019s one reason people complain that the Law of Attraction doesn\u2019t work for them. Even if you feel strongly about not having more of something, that something is what\u2019s returned.<\/p>\n

Anything you talk about gets included in your life experience. Even if you say you intend to have more money, if you include, \u201cand not feel lack anymore,\u201d you\u2019ll weaken your positive intention. If using the Law of Attraction was as simple as just saying what you want and getting it, we\u2019d all have what we desire. But there are many factors that affect what comes to us. Paying attention to how you state your intention, and making sure it’s all about what you want, not what you don\u2019t want, gives your intention a lot more power.<\/p>\n

Get into the habit of monitoring how you phrase things you want. It took me a little while to automatically phrase my desires in a positive way. It\u2019s so easy to be disgusted and say what you don\u2019t want instead.\u00a0 I still do it when I\u2019m feeling negative about something. But now I catch myself and correct the message quickly. Once you get the swing of framing your desires in a positive way, more will come to you!<\/p>\n

See all the posts in my Law of Attraction in Action Series HERE<\/strong><\/a>.
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Take the 31 Days of Self-Love Challenge<\/strong><\/a>–a pledge to do something loving for yourself for the next 31 days–and get my book, How Do I Love Me? Let Me Count the Ways<\/a><\/strong> for free at http:\/\/howdoiloveme.com<\/a><\/strong>. Read my 31 Days of Self-Love Posts from 2012 HERE<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Please leave comments under my posts so we can stay connected.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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