{"id":31,"date":"2010-02-08T15:10:00","date_gmt":"2010-02-08T15:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.beliefnet.com\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/02\/law-of-attraction-in-action-romantic-love.html"},"modified":"2010-02-08T15:10:00","modified_gmt":"2010-02-08T15:10:00","slug":"law-of-attraction-in-action-romantic-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.beliefnet.com\/columnists\/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat\/2010\/02\/law-of-attraction-in-action-romantic-love.html","title":{"rendered":"Law of Attraction in Action: Romantic Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>This is post 73 in my series on the Law of Attraction in Action. You CAN use your power to attract all that you need. I do it every day! Read the posts in this series<\/a> to see how.<\/p>\n

Sunday is the \u201cbig\u201d day for love\u2014Valentine\u2019s Day. I talked about it in my post last year on V. Day<\/a> but it needs to be discussed each year. This one day can generate great joy or great sorrow, depending on whether you\u2019re in a good relationship. The hype can make almost any single person lament not having a special someone. It used to do that to me. It was weird but even when I was seeing someone, something would happen just before February 14th and either end the relationship or the guy had to leave for a while. I used to think I was love jinxed. Now I think I just made that one day too important in the scheme of a relationship.<\/p>\n

Making V. Day THE day for love and for all romance your partner can muster can also attract a lack of romance and feeling loved on a regular basis throughout the year.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many women put pressure on their guys to make the day special. People go to overcrowded restaurants, often with jacked up prices on their menus, to celebrate their love. Many men feel forced to ante up on the romance. They often don\u2019t feel the vibe of what they do or give but the pressure makes them do it. But V Day isn\u2019t joyous for everyone<\/span>. It often evokes:<\/p>\n

* Pain for people with no one special.
* Disappointment if your guy doesn\u2019t give you a ring or you don\u2019t get what the hype promises.
* Frustration if you get something less romantic and more practical.
* Let down later if your life goes back to the way it was.<\/p>\n

Unrealistic expectations of this ONE day tells the Universe you don\u2019t see every day as a wonderfully loving one<\/span> that brings you love and romance.
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Years ago, I spent Valentine\u2019s Day with a friend for several years in a row. We\u2019d do a long walk downtown, moaning every time we\u2019d see a guy or delivery person go by with flowers. No flowers for us! We mourned not having a special guy over drinks and dinner. Though we\u2019d always go home depressed, we repeated this for several years. As I became more empowered, I realized that I was making having romance on V. Day much too important. I had a great life, good friends, and I had me, who I finally learned to love.<\/p>\n

The next V. Day I bought myself a rose!<\/span><\/p>\n

I went out and shopped for one perfect rose and bought it for the one I love most\u2014ME<\/span>! It made me so happy, not just to have a rose I loved, but because I knew how far I\u2019d come. Now I buy myself flowers every week. Why not? I don\u2019t buy them on Valentine\u2019s Day since they\u2019re usually more expensive. I\u2019ll get mine earlier in the week. But I love flowers so why not have them all year round?<\/p>\n

No one day\u2014no matter what it\u2019s called\u2014should be designated in your thoughts as THE day for love.<\/span> Every day is a love day for me now!<\/p>\n

Focusing on love for this one day can tell the Universe that you expect the special love stuff on February 14th, which can make it harder to attract the romance on other days. I just heard someone say that his wife had banned V. Day in their house. She didn\u2019t want to delegate this one day for love and preferred to show it every day. I agree! There\u2019s nothing wrong with having fun with your mate on this day, but recognize the value of showing love and romantic gestures regularly. That helps the connection of a good relationship sustain better that putting all your hearts into one basket on one day.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/a>Honor your love every day, whether if it\u2019s for your partner or yourself.<\/span> I consciously give myself love and the Law of Attraction responds with more joy in myself and<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have a special guy this year. I haven\u2019t had much time or met someone worth giving some up to go on a date. It\u2019s MY choice, not my bad luck on V Day. I\u2019m deliriously happy with my life, despite many women thinking I\u2019m nuts to turn down opportunities to go on a date because I\u2019d rather write or run or a million other things. When the time is right, I\u2019ll enjoy a V. Day with a special guy. For now, Sunday will still be a special day because I\u2019ve discovered the joy of loving myself. After many DoorMat years of being desperate to find a guy to complete me, I celebrate that I now complete myself.<\/p>\n

Show YOU love this weekend, along with other loved ones. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re in a good relationship, do something special for YOU! It will help you attract more love and happiness. And if you\u2019re single, loving yourself gives you more of a chance to attract a healthy relationship. You\u2019ve heard it before but it\u2019s so true\u2014you can\u2019t find healthy love from others until you love yourself. That shows you\u2019re worthy of being loved and the Law of Attraction will bring it back to you!<\/p>\n

See all the Law of Attraction in Action Series.<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

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